Who IBU?

[Tainbri]

My grandmother died just over a year ago and didn't leave a will. My father is her only child and I'm her only grandchild. Her estate equates to just under £100k, so a significant sum of money. My father says it all goes to him. His attitude is he's worked all his life and as she was his mum so next of kin so it's his. He also had power of attorney when she was alive. I kind of think I should be entitled to something but I don't know if IABU to think that, let alone if I'm actually legally entitled to any share.

No, it goes to him unless she wrote you into her will.

YABU

Why should you get anything.
He is next of kin so it will go to him as no will.
I do think it's a bit shit of him not to give you a bit though.

Legally it will all go to him.

That is why it is important to have a will if you want to control things.

YABU
The law states that the assets anyone dying without leaving a will go to their next of kin. That's your DF. He can do whatever he likes with the inheritance.

Don't be grabby, it's not nice. Maybe your DF will give you something.

I would expect it all goes to him. If she had wanted to make provision for you she would have.

Why do you think you should be entitled to anything? When my DGM died it was all left to her children (I.e. My dad) and I'll get what my parents leave behind if they haven't spent it all enjoying themselves

If she wanted you to have some, she would have done the will.

You have no legal entitlement.

It would no occur to me that i should be morally or legally entitles to any of my gps estate.

I think YABU to expect anything. Is it likely your DF will give you a token small sum perhaps?

You aren't legally entitled to any of it unless you were mentioned in the will.

I kind of think I should be entitled to something

You are acting very entitled, yes.

I agree with others, it's yoit dad's. nought to do with you

Goes to him as next of kin. Whether he's worked all his life is beside the point. If she'd left it all to a cat's home there's nothing he could have done just as there's nothing you can do.

If she had wanted you to have any of it, she would have put you in a will.

Is there a reason you think that you should get something? Eg did you care for her a lot or did she live with you?

Thanks, I didn't mean to sound grabby and I haven't mentioned anything to DF. Just having a selfish moment I guess as a few huge bills come in (such is life!) and thought Dad might see fit to at least let me have some money for the furniture of hers he sold. He's booked a cruise so like I say, just feeling a bit grumpy!!

Legally, it should all go to him. Unless there is a will where you are specifically named, it will go to her next of kin, in this case - your father.

Whilst I think most people would hope that their parent might give them a wee dropsie if they came into a large sum of money, it's not something you're entitled to so certainly shouldn't expect. I guess it depends on the relationship you have with your dad.

You can hope.

You could even ask.

But you have no entitlement to any of it.

My mum gave me and my sister a small amount of money from the money she inherited from her dad, which was a kind thing for her to do but I never felt entitled to any of it. I wasn't close to my grandparents, I imagine it's different if you're one of only a couple of grandkids or if you've been caring for them in their old age.

You've accepted yabu and I do agree it would've been nice for your dad to have given you something, but maybe he's planning to give it as he's had it, as an inheritance