To expect my mum to tell me things?

[Bobbins43]

This might be a bit rambling but bear with me. My niece and daughter both attend sessions at our local mosque two days a week. Basically, an Islamic equivalent of Sunday school. My sister in law has the contact details of the lady who runs it and one of my brothers or my dad takes the girls there and back again

They keep not telling me that the session has been cancelled or postponed. It's just happened again. Time came for pick up and no one has turned up so I rang and was told that the session today had been cancelled. And asked why I didn't ring earlier to find out if it was happening or not?

AIBU in expecting to be told? Looking at this laid out in black and white, it does look like they are helping me out a lot and that I should get hold of this woman's number myself which I will do in future.

I feel left out of things a lot. My mother was ill quite a few years ago and no one told me until the last minute. I'm expected to give them every little detail about my life or do what they ask me to, down to the tiniest detail but there are pretty major things they don't bother to involve me in or tell me. It feels like everything is on their terms. When they see me and my children, what they tell me.

I need to grow up, don't I? Or AIBR?

Why does the organiser not have your contact details? I dont understand why your mum should tell you things? Do you mean she should have told you she was ill or that the sessions are cancelled? Either way perhaps you need to take more responsibility for what is happening with the DCs and stuff? Or are you not able to because your family have control over what you do and dont do? Sorry I dont want to sound confrontational just trying to get the picture.

The organiser doesn't have my contact details because my sister in law set it all up. So she deals with her. There is a sort of language barrier thing as well. They organised the whole thing and expected my daughter to attend. I'm not especially fussed about it. I think it's good for her to go from a cultural viewpoint but I'm not fussed from a religious aspect.

My parents do have a lot of input (or try to) in my life, yes.

I guess I think she should tell me things because that's what part of a relationship is, isn't it? Knowing what's going on in people's lives?

I feel like she only wants me around when it's convenient for her or when she needs time to do something for her.

And the cancelled session thing is just getting annoying. My daughter has to get ready and we left soft play early just so she could make it.

I don't think I am very grown up when it comes to dealing with my parents