To think DP totally forgot and feel miserable?

[FlyMeToDunoon]

Long planned a few days off work to spend almost exclusively with DP as we don't often get time to ourselves and don't live together. Dates were discussed and we were finally able to book days at the same time. I arranged childcare.
We discussed days out we might both enjoy without the children. I booked us into a hotel for one night-four poster bed, dinner included. We talked about all of this. Some issues came up with dates which were dealt with.
So all planned a while ago but talked about over the last few months and weeks.
Last few days I have mentioned really looking forward to our time together and yesterday texted him about a day out I thought would be good. He replied about needing to do some house maintenance. I thought he was joking around.
Today in the supermarket as I was getting in a shop for my children as they are staying in our house I said to him and what food do we need to get? He was mystified and it became apparent that he had no idea of my staying at his and indeed had 'not realised it was this week'
I'm gutted and feel that it's going to be really hard to bounce back and enjoy it now.

The thing that jumps out at me is 'doesn't like to spend money'.

Are you trying to say he's 'tight'?

He seems a bit self-absorbed. If this a long-term relationship you need to consider how this behaviour is going to affect you.

I would not expect any DP to 'forget' that 'we' have a week planned spending time together and the fact he 'enjoys' his DIY and puts that before your planned week together would suggest that he 'likes to have his cake and eat it' - IMO.

I would be fuming in all honesty. Talking about it, planning it and discussing it some more in the weeks running up to it is no excuse. plus you say he hates spending money?

This flags up as a red warning. He doesn't seem to be the type of person who is 100% committed or even WANTS a relationship.

I'm confused! Are you staying at his or are you going to a hotel? Or is it a case of you staying at his and then going to a hotel for one night?

How long ago was it planned? Did he forget the whole thing or just the part about you staying at his -but remembered the hotel part?

I think you may find you occupy a different percentage of each other's headspace. I would be hurt too.

The thing that jumps out as me is "He may not have realised I thought we would spend it at his flat"

That does not sound like a plan properly discussed and agreed by both people!