Brave the Shave

[LouBlue1507]

A close friend of mine is doing brave the shave next weekend. She has always wanted to shave her hair off for charity and it just so happens that MacMillan are the charity linked to brave the shave.

I want to support my friend but don't want to donate to MacMillan as I dislike what they did re hyjacking the ice bucket challenge craze.

WIBU to explain this to my friend and offer to donate some money to another charity of her choice?

What is your actual problem with Macmillan? I'm not sure I understand.
Charities are always looking for ways to raise money- it's the whole point of their existent surely?
You're not really supporting your friend if you pay a different charity. It's a cause close to her heart clearly so you either support her or you don't.

Do what you like but Macmillan have been bloody brilliant to us throughout my husband's cancer diagnosis and treatment.

You may also like to search for a recent thread regarding why many people with cancer consider shaving you head for cancer to be an unsupportive and self seeking thing to do. Shaving your head is very, very different to the sudden loss of hair (eyebrow, eyelashes, body hair) that signals "ill person with cancer and chemo related symptoms" that may happen with cancer.

Just give the money to a charity of your choice. That applies to both of you.

Sorry if this seems harsh, but I can't get enthusiastic about your friend and her "always wanted..." nor your concerns about Macmillan.

Oh yeah well Macmillan are clearly pure evil

I think the support they offer probably cancels out the fundraising team annoying you but hey, support who you like.

One of my best friends has done a lot of fundraising this year by doing a lot of endurance sports events.

She is supporting a charity I have done a lot of work for in the past and didn"t want to sponsor her because I felt other charities are more deserving now.

I just wished her luck and didn't even need to explain myself. It hasn't changed our friendship. Most people understand that an individual's attitude towards charity donation can be a very petsonal thing.

Lots of charities hijacked the icebucket challenge though a few charities I know that are close to my heart raised money via the ice bucket challenge .

I never donate to MacMillan. They're funded enough, they have twatty attitudes towards other charities, and the way they 'fund' the nurses is laughable. The whole brave the shave idea is utterly bollocks too. Look at them, look at them.

Donate to who you like.

Donate to Marie Curie, dragons Macmillan are not supportive.

Sorry if it isn't clear, but the charity isn't close to friends heart. She wanted to shave her hair and McMillan just happens to be the charity it's linked to.

The other Brave The Shave thread is www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2998233-Brave-the-shave-Macmillan? here. I'll repeat what I have said on that.

As a bald cancer patient I find the campaign offensive and insensitive. Would your friend get out the purple eyeshadow and red lipstick and draw some bruises and cuts on her arms to support domestic violence charities?

Or strap up her leg and have a hop-a-long race for amputees?

So your friend "has always wanted to shave her hair off for charity" ? This is just self-seeking narcissism. Don't do it in my name.

Cancer is about fear and pain and stoicism in the face of absolute shit. But hey - have a laugh and a joke about being bald - you carry on.

Thanks TwitterQueen. Sending you a supportive hug.
You get it.

My DH's hair has grown back now. Not like it was before. Not like it would be if you just shaved your head. Patchy, uneven, frizzy, different colour...

Thanks Fuzzy
I'm told it comes back a bit oddly at first, but then settles down. My friend's came back curly but then straightened. A man I met yesterday had soft, grey hair, whereas previously it had been white. Mine is beginning to come back evenly and dark plus grey (normal) but it will all go again when I restart chemo next month.

Good luck with your next lot of chemo twitter.

DH has a thinner patch above each ear and a curly patch behind his ears (previous very straight hair). He also has strange hair growth (either more or less or a different texture) in other places. Hair follicles and chemo are clearly uncomfortable bedfellows!