To ask you to talk some sense into me. Dd holiday with Dad.

[Tinkerbec]

My dd is due to go to Mexico for two weeks with her Dad. She has been away with him lots of times before but I can never shake the paranoid feeling.

What is she falls in the sea? What if she doesn't watch crossing the road?
What is she gets really seriously ill and I can't get to her within ten minutes.
Even ,what if there is a CO leak like what happened to that poor family. Other equally awful scenarios ones whir in my head.

She is 9. I know this sounds silly but these things happen.

Then I worry if I don't hear from her for half a day. Just a text I am fine.
Then I worry she isn't having a good time.

I mean its not like I will be sat at home. I am going to the USA with my boyfriend but then I feel guilty as I am having a good time without her.

What is wrong with me?

We have just come back from our holiday with my dd. We ended up in and e due to an ear infection. Me also for an infected insect bite. We both fly again on Saturday. She has been ill and in bed. I worry she will still be ill when she goes.

I am not like this normally. I think it is because it's abroad and for quite a long time.

Does anyone else feel like this?

I was worried sick when my DS (then 16!!) went to New York/Washington with his school 🙄 He hadn't been abroad before without us - only been to Butlin's in Bognor with a friend and his family and an activity holiday with the school less than 30 mins away from us! It was made worse by the fact that it was during the October school holidays which meant I was off work too so didn't have work to distract me. I just had to try and keep busy (which you will be) and I knew he was ok when I saw some posts on FB. We text him a couple of times and got a couple of reluctant one liners back from him but were reassured he was ok.

I really do understand your anxiety but she will be fine, especially with that number of adults looking out for her.

Pandora sorry I meant my ex dsd . Ex step daughters are going. Daughters half sisters.

But yes ex father in law will be aware.

I could talk to ex but doubt he will understand.

Lots of people to look after her. Now start looking forward to your fabulous holiday

Thanks everyone.

Depending where she goes in Mexico the sea is fairly shallow a way out and also they rope off swimming areas in the sea.

I am sure it is just the she'll be away from me. Also younger kids you constantly monitor but you are worried because they are that little bit older and want to be a bit more independent.

I think she'll be fine.

As you are in the US then you are much closer in the case of an actual emergency that if you were here and there would be daily flights etc.

The only thing I'd say was that i got the most awful D&V when I went to Mexico so ensure ex has travel insurance and plenty of immodium suitable for her age.

My daughter has perforated her ear drum.

This has sent my anxiety through the roof.

Aghhhh

Is she away with her dad now or with you?

She is with me now. Leaves on Sunday.

Dear God, you need to see a doctor?
no you do not! It's normal. I took my daughter for a sleepover and nearly cried when she left