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DD walked out of job

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MiansyMoo · 13/08/2017 20:16

Will try and keep short. DD is 18, recently got first job at local supermarket. Had an induction where she was waiting around for hours, signed a ten hours minimum contract waiving her right to work less than 48 hours a week, even though the position was advertised as part time.

She signed it anyway. Like I said, first job.

At first shift, she was left alone for four hours before someone came and realised she was there at work. Apparently everyone ignored her request for help, was very unfriendly and rude. On top of this, she was also not given the door code to get in, not given any duty manager numbers, or any information about what duties she was supposed to carry out.

She had her second shift yesterday. Again, she said she was given no duties, no guidance, just left in the store despite her induction consisting of just signing a contract. No training was given at all, aside from a brief e-course.

She said she roamed around the store for six hours completely clueless, before eventually walking out during the shop hours.

DH thinks she has behaved appallingly and has no sympathy. However, although she is 18, it's her first job and she was up all of Friday night anxious and even crying as she had no idea what the hell she was supoosed to be doing. On top of that, she hasn't been put on the rate of pay advertised at the interview and they've given her 45 hours next week, not the 20 she agreed too.

AIBU to side with DD on this? Not saying walking out of a job is right, but it clearly was making her very unhappy

OP posts:
FelixtheMouse · 13/08/2017 20:24

Good for her. My DW did pretty much the same thing. Your DH is a knob IMO.

MiansyMoo · 13/08/2017 20:25

DH is all very "stick to the contract."

Ironically he walked out of work once and it was full time. AND he had a family to support.

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youaredeluded · 13/08/2017 20:25

Good for her. Life is too short to be miserable in a job. I hope she finds something nicer soon.

BarbarianMum · 13/08/2017 20:26

Well you can certainly see her point, can't you. Ideally i guess she'd have secured another job before quitting - if they are happy to pay her whilst she's doing this, it's no skin off her nose.

CottonSock · 13/08/2017 20:27

No, that's not the way to treat your staff

Moanyoldcow · 13/08/2017 20:28

Your daughter is right. Employer has a responsibility to provide work and training and direction and they haven't done any of these things.

Consideringbeingamom · 13/08/2017 20:28

The company sounded extremely disorganised and unprofessional. She did what most of us would have done. Good for her, she asserted herself.

DontTouchTheMoustache · 13/08/2017 20:29

Your DH is wrong. It is good that she isn't prepared to be treated like this. She had valid reasons for walking out.

AnyFucker · 13/08/2017 20:30

Team DD here

Topseyt · 13/08/2017 20:34

I don't blame her for doing what she did. That was an appalling way to treat a staff member, and it sounds like the induction was an utter joke.

Support your DD here, and pointedly remind DH that he once walked out on a full time role, so he is being a hypocrite.

ruddynorah · 13/08/2017 20:35

I find this very hard to believe. Who gave her her rota? Who gave her next week's rota? Who gave her uniform? Who interviewed her? Has she asked to see any of these people? She wandered for 6hours?

Pantryboy · 13/08/2017 20:35

Your DD has been treated appallingly. I really feel for anyone on these zero hour contracts. They ought to be stopped. You DH is a right dickhead , he should be supporting her not being an arsehole . Good for your dd for not going back .

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 13/08/2017 20:35

Good for your DD, what an appalling way to treat staff-certainly new starters.

edwinbear · 13/08/2017 20:36

I walked out of a job in the civil service a couple of months ago for very similar reasons. I'm now re-employed elsewhere earning 4 times as much. Your DD WNBU and I hope she finds something better very soon.

Witsender · 13/08/2017 20:36

Fuck that, I'd have done the same.

He's a fine one to talk isn't he.

dataandspot · 13/08/2017 20:37

Did work notice she had left?

Bluntness100 · 13/08/2017 20:37

Good for her. My daughter has done this a couple of times, with my support and urging. It's shocking how some companies treat young people. It's not just they are paid shit, they are treated like shit too.

Good for her, and your husband is very wrong.she needs to know when to say no and walk away. The supermarket is in the wrong, not her. She did rhe right thing, she should now write to head office and explain what happened.

Loopytiles · 13/08/2017 20:38

I had a similar situation at 18 and wish I'd done what your DD did. Poor employer.

Tiptoethr0ughthetulips · 13/08/2017 20:38

Good for her, I once walked out of a shop floor job when I was 17 due to being treat like shit. She doesn't need the reference she can pretend it never happened and find something else.

creamcheesechampion · 13/08/2017 20:39

I previously worked at a well known department store. Some of your OP is so close to home that I could've written it! I wasn't given any duty manager numbers and because I only worked one or two days a week, the door codes were often changed without anybody telling me and I'd turn up unable to get in and unable to ring anybody to let me in because I had no bloody numbers! I went on to work there for two years and it was hell and I was very miserable. I wish I'd been like your DD and had the balls to just walk out.

What on earth would she have done if she'd stuck it out and had to work 45 hours next week with no training and not a clue what to do?

And for anyone who comes on to say this wouldn't happen and staff members wouldn't ignore a new person's requests for help - some really, really would. I remember being an eighteen year old girl working in retail and some of the older members of staff could be bloody horrible and wouldn't give a shit how stuck you were.

Peeetle · 13/08/2017 20:39

My dss did similar. We were pretty annoyed until we realised what the terms of employment were and how much pressure he was under to do overtime - they would roster him on and he'd have to explain why he didn't want to do extra days (4am start!)

Cherrytart6 · 13/08/2017 20:39

She did the right thing. She needs to write to the manager explaining what happened

AlecTrevelyan006 · 13/08/2017 20:40

Supermarkets generally treat their staff pretty badly these days - I can understand why your daughter walked out. I doubt if it will have any lasting impact on her career.

InspMorse · 13/08/2017 20:44

The supermarket has no supervisors or managers? She went to find them? Has she no idea what her role is? She has no idea who her section leader/ supervisor is? What job did she apply for? Stock, tills, cafe, warehouse? Everyone ignored her? IF this is true Hmm she has the easiest (and dullest) job in the world.

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 13/08/2017 20:44

My Dd did the same, working in a weekend job in Debenhams. They treated her and other staff appallingly. She lasted about 5 days and walked out one lunch time.
I was rather proud of her. She's had other jobs whilst a student and everything has been fine.

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