To want dh to STFU about 'health'?

[NormaDesmondsEyebrows]

Uuuurgh. He's on a health kick. It's very admirable. But he's trying to make me be more healthy and he's getting on my tits.

I had cheesy chips for tea last night and he sat there making pained faces at me. He tuts every time I go for a smoke. And now he's trying to convince me to go out for a walk with him. I'm quite happy lounging in my pyjamas watching Stargate, thanks. It's Sunday ffs.

He has a gym set up in the garage and is always suggesting I use it. We've also got a cross trainer that sits in the corner of the room silently judging me.

Apparently my diet of coffee, chips and fags isn't good enough and I should eat more veg and exercise regularly. Tbf in term time I walk between 4-6 miles a day but it's the holidays so I've done a lot less.

I don't WANT to go on a health drive. I'm fine as I am. And his badgering is just making me want to shovel cake in my mouth.

AIBU? Can I kill him?

It's true that people that go on and on about fitness are tedious but they usually get bored of it looks at DP and his protein powder cluttering up the cupboard

however, it's not a bad thing to want to look after yourself a bit, be a bit healthier. Or want people you love and care about to look after their health too.

We've also got a cross trainer that sits in the corner of the room silently judging me.

Why do I have a mental image of a fit, muscular guy, sitting there with his arms folded, looking really angry?

Nothing more boring than a bloody health nut! Criticising what someone else eats etc is just rude.

I'm pretty healthy

Well, apart from the fags, cheesey chips, lack of exercise, etc.

How much do you drink?

It seems most people disagree, but I strongly believe that one's health and lifestyle is very much their partner's business. Obviously, there are limits, but the smoking situation is huge. Never mind being deadly, you stink like a grubby ashtray. And when you become sick and diseased from smoking, your spouse will have to be the one to care for you. That's certainly not fair. I think it's great to be health conscious TOGETHER and support each other in being as healthy as possible.

Jeez there's some right self righteous twats on here today.
@Mychildcouldnotbreaatfeed your post is uncalled for and unfair. Oh and your username is spelt wrong too btw

Writer, tell the self-righteous twat it's FEWER calories, not less.

Writer, tell the self-righteous twat it's FEWER calories, not less.

I'm currently 39 weeks pregnant (therefore totally entitled to be eating sausages and crisps) and he's already meal planning for our "healthier lifestyle" as soon as the baby is born. I've let him know that when baby arrives I will be even more inclined to want to eat rubbish

Well DH has just eaten two full plates of cheesy pasta bake. I've had half a plate.

So he can cock off with his sermonising

Haha! He's cracked already! He will be cracking open the beers next!

Have a glass of wine Norma! And get that cross-trainer out of the room, it can't go with your furniture surely? You could get a bigger sofa and telly with the extra room!

YANBU. Fitness and health fanatics are among the most boring people on earth - see page 1 of this thread for perfect examples.

He's cracking already so wait until he's given up the health kick and give him a taste of his own medicine: just enough that he'll know what it feels like next time he gets an obsession.

I don't understand how he's 'cracked'?

A fit, healthy person eating cheese pasta bake for dinner, is considered 'cracking'?

Health and fitness is not all about denying yourself certain foods in moderation.

That's not to say he doesn't sound like a bit of an annoying cock, because he does, but he hasn't 'cracked'. He's just eaten some dinner that he wanted.

Well he has 'cracked' because he's been sanctimoniously badgering the OP and yet eats two plates of cheesy pasta, hardly healthy is it? All OP has had dinner that she wanted but was lectured about eating some bloody chips! Pot and kettle springs to mind.

I don't think he should lecture you (even though that's what some of us - me included have done ) but I don't think being concerned about someone's health and suggesting they might change their ways is being boring. There's nothing worse surely than getting diagnosed with a serious illness you might have prevented by stopping smoking / eating a little more healthily.

Sure any of us could get hit by a bus tomorrow and diet etc isn't everything when it comes to health (I actually have a chronic health condition that is genetic) but I want to do everything I can to make sure I stay as healthy as possible as long as possible for my family. It doesn't make me boring!

I don't agree.

There's nothing wrong with a fit, healthy person eating cheesy pasta for dinner.

It's not like he eats it every day, along with the OP's diet of fags, coffee and chips.

He should stop badgering her and leave her alone of course, but the idea that someone has somehow cracked because they've eaten something they enjoy in moderation, is a bit silly imo.

You sound very unhealthy but it's up to you.

He's really not boring. Well, him reading out the list of 51 healthy life hacks he found online did get a tiny bit tedious..

Tbf I do need to get my act together a bit, I have an ulcer and a hiatus hernia but I've been getting my MH in order for the past few years and haven't had the headspace to sort out my diet (and the smoking). I'm pretty sure 15 cups of coffee a day and a high fat diet isn't ideal.

But I'm poking at dh today because I'm pretty sure the 8 pints plus sambucca last night negates any of his good intentions (v rare night out for us, mates 40th). He woke up irritatingly hangover free and started googling health tips and badgering me.

TBH, even if your lifestyle choices weren't just fags, coffee and chips, but heroin injected into your eyeballs, and playing catch with wildfire torches, your DH should still bore off. It's not going to make you suddenly change your ways (you - and me, I'm with you! - are living proof of this) and he's not your dad. It's beyond tedious, and he needs to stfu about it. Everyone who witters on about running, 'lifting', carbs, sugar, whatever the bleating fuck they are into, needs to STFU about it. It's NOT INTERESTING.

A quiet, gentle conversation on the lines of 'I love you, and I'm a touch concerned, can we discuss', fine. Wanging on about it all the time is going to put you off healthy living even more.

You're reacting as you are because you know (and acknowledge) he has a point. It's never easy to be told you should sort yourself out when you know you really do have to sort yourself out. But equally your H needs to think about how he goes about things - sounds like he's using a sledgehammer to crack a nut. My first H went through the whole "my body is a temple" obsession bollocks and I found it infuriating and it made me want to eat more crap just to spite him (I was dead mature) - if he'd done the softly softly thing it would have been way more effective.

Well we're off to the South of France for a week in a couple of days so I will eating my own body weight in cheese and quaffing wine at 10am (as will he) so hopefully he'll ease off on the proselytising for a bit. Although I anticipate he'll be wanting to have brisk walks round the village while I'll be wanting to laze by the pool...