New relationship

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Hi - back story = exH and I were together for 4 years married for just under 2. We separated when I was 7 weeks pregnant 15 months ago and have muddled on since then via CM and access. I recently found out he is in a new relationship and I just feel a bit weird.?? I was the one who initiated separation due to his awful behaviour, and I don't feel at all like I want him back or anything like that I dunno it just feels really odd to know he's moved on? When we first split I was bombarded with texts and emails all promising to fight for me and that we would love me forever and he would never stop loving me etc but this just feels weird. Guess I'm just asking if it's normal to feel a bit weird? AIBTU??

Sorry forgot to add - I found out by him supposedly sending a text that was meant for her, to me!

I'm sure it's normal for you to feel a bit weird - but you just have to accept it. He's entitled to be with someone else; you've been separated for over a year and you dumped him. Why shouldn't he move on?

I think most people do feel a bit weird when their ex gets a new partner but we have to get over it.

It's normal, it's like when the divorce papers come through, it makes you think about how you thought life was going to be with this one person and now the reality is those drama are now in the past.

If you accept your feelings are normal and they will pass quicker.

Dreams not drama 🙄 bloody phone

Thanks for both of your replies. I totally get it - he can see whoever he wants he's single!! Just me being a bit stupid really! I think it's mainly cause I still have to see him all the time cause he sees our son, usually you split up, deal with it and move on I think it's just harder as I still have to see him knowing he's with someone else.... maybe the problem is that he's managed to find someone else but it's more complicated for me having ds full time and working part time!

Of course you would feel weird/sad - even though you don't want him - you thought at one stage you would be together forever (or long term)

I think it's normal.
I'm not with my ex but dreading when he meets someone else as I know I will get the weird feeling aswell.

You're all so lovely!! I spent yesterday after I found out wanting to cry! I didn't (😂) but just felt really sad. I think you're right about almost grieving for the life I thought I would have but never got x