To ask about the realities of divorce and the single life?

[OverTheHammer]

I'm just curious ...

Been together 6 years, married for just over one. He jointly own our house 50/50 although he put a lot more into it at the start. We've since paid the mortgage together. We have no kids together. I have teens (one now an adult) from previous relationship. What could I expect to get from a divorce realistically? (Btw I'm not out to fleece him!).

And then moving forward - I only earn 22k a year. Would I survive? Would I be able to buy a house? Would I be depressed and lonely?

I'm thinking with rose tinted glasses that being single would mean me spending and saving money as I see fit, having my own home to do with as I see fit, being able to come and go as I see fit, eating and drinking a I see fit, casual dating just for the hell of it ... is the reality a different picture?

I'm a single parent. Your last paragraph is why I love my life. I have an OH that I see a couple of times a week but no way would I live with him. Too happy with my freedom

You may get half the house. You may not. Its not a long marriage and no kids involved.

Wether you can afford a house or not depends on where you live and how much houses are. And how much you get from the house sale.

It might be quite right on 22k. You may not br able to afford everything you want.

But its a damn sight better than being in a miserable marriage.

I live in one of the cheapest housing areas in the U.K. Thankfully. If I could get the mortgage I could find a decent house for £120k

See we'd have no reason to stay in touch which makes me a little sad.

And how much would you get from the house.

Best case you 50% of the equity.
Worst case he gets his depoist back and you get 50% of that. (Assuming that is worst case and there isnt anything that could impact how much you get)

Is you marriage over or just in a slump.

Maybe you need to be definite about that before you worry about the other stuff.

I split with my EX 4 years ago (he had an affair) however we did not actually divorce for 3 years as we had no children, no real assets (he owned the house before we married so I decided to just let him keep it all and take only the big bits I'd bought and contributed to the home). It was fairly painful and horrible for the first year as he wanted to reconcile and I did not, however over time it has become amicable and although we do not see each other due to living 250 miles apart we text regularly and still care about each others lives and happiness. I loved being single after, I have a partner now but the time where I could date and do whatever I wanted with my own time and money was great. You'll only be lonely if you assume you need another person to be happy - you don't. Join meetup and make some new friends, go to an exercise class a couple times a week, join a book club - anything which interests you. A relationship isn't a failure just because it doesn't last a lifetime, you can appreciate and love someone as a person but not want to continue being their partner. There is something very rewarding about coming home to your own home, kicking shoes off, making a cuppa and just feeling at peace with yourself and how you are living your life. If you don't feel at peace with it now then make the changes you need.

Long post there sorry, clearly touched a nerve with me lol