How often does DH/DP go out w friends?

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Been with DP roughly 3 years, 1 DS.

We rarely go out together as a couple, however he goes out once a week with friends, once a week with coworkers & at least once a month going on day trips.

I'm in no way paranoid/overly attached but it does seem a bit much to me.

What are your opinions on this? Thanks

How often do you go out?

Twice a month with the girls

Would the option for you to go out more be there if you wanted it?

I think twice a week is quite a lot. Does it impact on you though or is it after DS is asleep? If it's after he's asleep I wouldn't mind.
The day trips is want to even up though, even if I just wanted to go and drink coffee and mooch about somewhere on my own.

*I'd want

Once a month on a proper night out. Once or twice a week he nips round to see cousin (lives on next road) or another friend locally.

I don't go out much. I'm pregnant, all my friends are pregnant / have young babies so we do a lot of our socialising in the daytime.

I do get regular breaks at home though. DP does evening routine at least every other evening.

My DP is about the same, we have 2DC. I go out probably the same. Less some months and more others. We go out together once a month if babysitters allow.

Is there really a normal though? When the DC were tiny I didn't leave without them, so I didn't go out as much and DH stayed home more to help.

My oh is out 1x or 2x weekly with others. I'm out 1x or 2x monthly with others. He had more hobbies that take him out whereas mine keep me in. It suits me as I get the alone time I need.

The answer is whatare you happy with. My dh previous job he went out 3-4 times a week with colleagues. This job....i think hes been out once with them (xmas before last as no xmas meal last year...dont ask why) and friends he went out for first time with a friend last week for two years. Hence why when hesaid he wanted to go to a car show (wanted me and dd to go too but three hours to get there with dd in a hot car) i smiled and told him to enjoy it on his own even through it was ona saturday and took 1 year old dd out myself (for. Cake). So whatdo you feel happy with?

About once a month

I never go out in the evenings but see friends usually ever day during the day (for cake)

We go out together quite rarely (again we do lots in daytime as a family)

Maybe 1-2 every couple of months. Averaging about 8 times a year, then we go out as a couple on top of that. Just when things crop up really, so he may go out 4 times one month but then not go out for 2 months after that!

I probably do more, as I go to a festival once a year on top of other nights out, days out etc.

I would be more than happy for dh to go out more if he wanted, but he's not bothered.

He goes out about once a month with work and twice a month with his dad to watch sport. He meets his friends several times a year. We go out a few times a week together and with joint friends. I meet up just with my friends once a week day or evening. We both have hobbies that take up a couple of hours a week each.
Our DC are 16+ though so neither of us needs to be in.

Including playing golf, meals out and leaving drinks - plus the 'usual' social stuff it probably works out to twice a month. The playing golf tends to happen early in the morning so he's back by 10/11am because he doesn't want to write the whole day off. It's about 50/50 whether he stays out on social/drinks occasions - sometimes he goes for 1 or 2 and is home by 8pm, other times he'll stay out and I'll collect him from the station as he'll get the train back. I go out less often but when I do, I tend to stay out.

The issue is not the frequency; the issue is that you both need to be happy with the balance and feel like you're spending time together without it being tipped too far in favour of being with friends.

Never! He is a home bird. Twice a week is a lot if you think it's a lot.

Once or twice a week. I'm absolutely fine with that and enjoy having the remote control to myself and eating what I want!

Two or three times a week. The same as me.

DP goes out about once a month for a whole evening with his mates, but also pops round (or he comes here) to see his best mate who lives 2 mins away about once a week, usually after DS is in bed.

He also has a weekend away walking/hiking in the UK with friends once a year. He might travel to a different city to see a sporting event a few times a year too and stay over with a friend.

I do roughly the same.

We both have hobbies which we do once or twice a week.

I think it depends on why you/him are going out. A catch up curry with mates and an hour watching the end of the footy at a friends occasionally, a drink after work with colleagues a few times is healthy socialising - spending 4/7 evenings in the pub just because you can is not productive. This is not the 1950s as the "wife" I'm not sitting in for him while he drinks his wages and argues with the barman. (He doesn't do this but I have friends husbands who do and I think it's boring and the partners tend to resent them eventually as they are doing all the childcare for the majority of the evenings).

He was away last week and out last night. Generally though I'd say about once a month.

I don't usually mind but I'm fed up doing bed time on my own at the moment so when he gets up he's looking after the dc all afternoon.

I have the opposite problem my DP never ever goes out!
He's got a good circle of friends but will not join them in anything. I'm always telling him to join his mate at the pub to watch the football but he never does and is happy being home. It annoys me a little as ild like the tv for a few hours to myself now and then

Once in a blue moon - I probably go out more than he does but kids bit older and we're both in our mud 40s so do more socialising as a family these days

As often as he wants to go out - I'm not his mother nor his keeper.

Whenever he organises something. He and his mates have all scattered across the UK/globe so it tends to be more in the summer holidays and at Christmas because everyone's home visiting. Less during Jan/Feb/March because he's a bit of a winter hermit and only leaves the house under extreme duress.

We have young DCs so have friends over often, and recently did the garden up so it's lovely for entertaining. I bought him a super swanky bbq for his 40th birthday so his happy place is currently stood by that shouting "bring me plates, I need plates for this steak". He says now the garden's done and he has his man-fire-pit he will never leave the house again. I sometimes go out with my friends and come home to find him and his best mate from next door sat out in the garden 5 beers in listening to Morrissey. That's as wild as he'll ever get.

Maybe once a week? I do the same.