Hello! I'm pretty new on here, and I don't know what the etiquette is regarding asking for help but here goes ( please bear in mind I may not understand all abbreviations!!)
I moved to a small village 18 months ago with husband (DH?) and my ten yr old DD. Husband has recently been diagnosed autistic which explains a lot of the problems he has had over the years. As a consequence of his autism I don't have a social life and I only have a couple of friends now. Last year there was a village event and I ' made friends' with a woman who is similar aged and lives close by. We just gelled. We were not in and out of each other's pockets but over the last year we have been shopping/ out for coffee/out for lunch/ she has babysat/ drinks at each other's house/ Sunday lunch/ gone to local pub. We averaged seeing each other probably once a month/ maybe every 3 weeks. It was her birthday in March- I tried to organise going out in whatever capacity she liked but was brushed off with ' very busy' type comments. I duly took her a card and a present though. We haven't done anything together now for five months. I asked her in June - face to face- what I done as she had obviously fallen out with me. She denied it very quickly and changed the subject super fast. We were at a community meeting at the pub some weeks after that and she was fine with me. Anyway, it was my birthday last week and although I wasn't wanting/ expecting a present I did think I might get a card. Nothing. Not even a bloody perfunctory 'Happy birthday' on Facebook. So, my question is, AIBU to feel hurt? Do I just ignore it? Do I ask her again what her problem is? Or do I just write off the friendship ( if that's what it was)? I know it will piss me off if I can't get this sorted in my head. Any advice please?