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Noisy new neighbour

38 replies

Greyhorses · 12/08/2017 21:35

I am being a miserable twat aren't I?

We live in a lovely little cul de sac. We are the youngest by about 40 years and everyone is really considerate and quiet. It's more of a retirement place than anything else! We have really enjoyed living here as we are quiet people and hate the idea of living somewhere with lots going on.

New neighbors moved in yesterday with 2 boys around 10 and they have done nothing but run around at the front of my house screaming, scootering along the street and scraping past our cars. Last night until 9pm and then tonight still out now. Screaming and scootering over and over. They are so loud it's hard to tell if it's on the TV or outside and I have no idea how they still have voices.

Aibu to be sitting seething for no good reason that my peace has been ruined. DS has been woken up again and my dogs are unsettled at all of the racket! Sad

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sororitynoise · 12/08/2017 21:36

YANBU

Syc4moreTrees · 12/08/2017 21:38

Sounds a pain, but they'll be back to school soon

Nancy91 · 12/08/2017 21:38

Ah that's rubbish, it's the same where I live, I'm known to "ssh!" the kids if it's getting ridiculous.

Letstryagainshallwe · 12/08/2017 21:39

I feel your pain. I live in a ground floor maisonette. A couple was living above me and I hardly heard a peep out of them. Then a family of 5 moved in! It's ruined my home tbh. Hate noisy neighbours it's like living under a herd of elephants.

TwitterQueen1 · 12/08/2017 21:45

Yes you're being a miserable twat.

Your dogs are unsettled? really? I find that difficult to believe - as a dog owner. The sound of children playing really isn't going to disturb them.

It's the summer holidays. Children are allowed to play outside - and should be encouraged to do so.

'Scraping past your cars?' If they're on scooters they really won't want to be anywhere near your cars.

This will be your DS in a few years. Learn to chill and accept the fact that you don't get to control other people.

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Greyhorses · 12/08/2017 21:46

I don't know why the parents aren't bothering to go out and quiet them down or whatever. It's clearly a street full of elderly people (bungalows with access mainly) and only a small few houses.

We have dogs and children but manage not to create a nightmare for others.

Has consideration for others just died now Sad

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Greyhorses · 12/08/2017 21:49

Twitter my dogs are well used to the noises of children- this is screaming like we've been murdered noise! The dogs are a guarding breed and do tend to become alert when people pass the house which is now about every 3 seconds rather than once per day!

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Nancy91 · 12/08/2017 21:51

Twitter, my dog goes mental when kids are screaming outside. It's totally normal for many breeds.

TwitterQueen1 · 12/08/2017 21:54

It's not your road.

The other houses don't belong to you.

You don't know what other residents are thinking. Sometimes older people like to hear the sounds of children enjoying themselves.

You can be considerate - according to your definition - you can't make other people abide by your rules.

Live and let live.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 12/08/2017 21:54

Sounds horrible.

Playing outside is lovely, but there has to be some consideration for others.

EdmundCleverClogs · 12/08/2017 21:58

You can always tell which parents on here think that summer holidays = children can do as they please as it's 'their time'. Even if that's bothering half a neighbourhood with their delightful games when others are winding down in the evening.

'Scraping past your cars?' If they're on scooters they really won't want to be anywhere near your cars.

How could you know this? Many a car has been scraped by an inconsiderate child on a scooter/bike.

Whilst I don't believe that children should be in at 8pm on the dot, straight to bed during the holidays, being so loud they disturb the neighbours is not ok in the evenings/early night. I'd probably either kindly ask them to play a quieter game, or try and catch their parents and ask if their kids can be more careful in the evenings.

On the plus side, with the weather turning there should be fewer instances of playing out soon enough.

FreudianSlurp · 12/08/2017 22:01

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BhajiAllTheWay · 12/08/2017 22:43

I'd be on edge thinking if they are like this on day one...what are they going to be like going forward?! I think most folk would try to keep a fairly low profile being new in to the area and not hack off the existing residents. I'd have told mine to calm it down. I have kids and animals but also consideration for others. I don't think YABU at all.

DaviesMum · 12/08/2017 22:50

Yes you're being a miserable twat.

Nice. This thread seems to have touched a nerve, like it's holding a mirror up to you, perhaps?

Nanny0gg · 12/08/2017 22:50

At quarter to ten at night it is very, very unreasonable for children to be outside playing and shouting.

Very inconsiderate behaviour.

Tapandgo · 12/08/2017 22:56

Kids have the right to play. You have the right to undisturbed peace in your home.

Some parents let their kids outside and choose to remain oblivious to the nuisance they present, as long as they are not a nuisance to them!
I've seen parents let kids play football were there are signs explicitly forbidding it and then the kids run right across other people's gardens to retrieve the ball. (Not to mention the fact the balls often hit cars parked legally on the road or driveway). All this despite the fact that they all gave private gardens to play in and that there is a park 5 minutes walk away if the parents bothered to take them there.

What messages are these parents teaching their kids - disregard others, disregard rules and regulations and backchat adults who try and protect their environment.

Of course there are overly fussy neighbours, and those who 'dislike' kids. However, most people are reasonable and just want a bit of respect for their property and their right to live in peace. In the end, everybody benefits if that happens.

Letstryagainshallwe · 12/08/2017 22:56

Agree that normally if they are like this on day one that's how they are. Everyone said to me to cut my neighbours some slack as they had just moved in but nope a year later they are still just as loud!

Tapandgo · 12/08/2017 23:03

Letstryagain - agree, and unruly children at that age are likely to be unruly teenagers. You would think the parents would have their kids on their best behaviour in a new neighbourhood.

PollyFlint · 12/08/2017 23:06

I don't have kids and like peace and quiet too ... but I can't really see much in the way of grounds for complaint if they are playing in the street on scooters. They're not on your property and presumably nobody's car has actually been damaged. 9pm isn't especially late.

The fact that the rest of the neighbours are elderly and your dogs are highly strung isn't really a factor here. Although you say your cul de sac is 'like' a retirement village, it isn't actually a retirement village and you can't expect everyone to behave as if it is.

They've been there two days and their house is probably full of boxes and decorating and stuff being unpacked, so that's probably why they're outside a lot. Once things are a bit more settled in the house they'll probably be indoors more.

I know I sound really unsympathetic, but it's not that I don't understand why you're irritated - I don't like noise much either - but sometimes you do have to accept (as I try to) that other people's lives don't have to revolve around your needs. My next door neighbours have young kids who do a lot of screaming, shouting, crying, throwing tantrums and are constantly running around on laminate flooring. They also have a newborn that cries a lot. Yes, this is a bit annoying. However, they are small children and it's their house; however much it annoys me sometimes, they aren't being unreasonable and I don't have grounds to complain.

Ipsie · 12/08/2017 23:15

No you're not being miserable. I hate it when other people feel it is their right to inflict their noise on me. Young or old - they do not have the right. The young - it's a time to learn being considerate to others so that when older they don't become the rude people blaring their music! There are places to go to be noisy - go there.

maddening · 13/08/2017 00:11

If the kids weren't being so loud then the op would have no problem, surely the parents should monitor their own dc's volume and tell them to keep the noise down while playing outside

TwitterQueen1 · 13/08/2017 09:13

DaviesMum

Yes you're being a miserable twat. Nice. This thread seems to have touched a nerve, like it's holding a mirror up to you, perhaps?

This was the language the OP used. I replied in the same way. But do feel free to continue to make ridiculous assumptions. No nerve touched here. In fact I have neighbours - foreign too - whose children roller skate and ride their bikes in the road. I smile at them and say hello.

Huffletuff · 13/08/2017 09:22

Wow, Twitter. There's only one twat here and it seems to be you.

Puffpaw · 13/08/2017 09:31

They only moved in yesterday, give it a couple of weeks before you start worrying too much. They are bound to be a bit hyper at the moment.

Tapandgo · 13/08/2017 10:38

Take over a welcome card - with 'welcome to our nice quiet neighbourhood' ?

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