To ask for post divorce happiness stories?

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Hit me with the positivity and how to rise above the bullshit. Mid process at the moment, the twunt won't move out, need stories of the light at the end of what feels like a very long tunnel

Not divorced myself but both of my parents had/have very successful second marriages. Doesn't help for what you're going through now but in the long run it'll be worth it.

God I'm happy 😀
Divorced EA ex 2 years ago and have become "me" again. New partner, new life.
Worth all the shit leading up to the decree absolute

It took me two and a half years to finally get rid of the bastard, but boy was it worth it! My health improved out of all recognition - my IBS improved dramatically, my heartburn disappeared, my skin looked better. Sleeping on my own in a bed means I sleep well. I don't have to worry about how drunk he might be when he returns, or cook meals that he decides at the last minute he doesn't fancy so buys chips/Chinese/pizza. I'm not left with his family when they come visiting (which thank the lord they don't do!) and I don't have to worry about him undermining my relationship with the DC. DD1 and I now have a fairly good relationship after 6 or 7 years of barely speaking thanks to him. I now find myself wondering how on earth I stayed married to him for as long as I did. I do know why - I meant my vows, but to him they were just words. It has been the best thing that ever happened to me, even if I have had to mop up DD2's tears at some of his dickishness.

I'm healthier, slimmer, happier, in control of my own life and finances. Very happily single with no desire to be attached again. If it happens then so be it, but my life is full enough with friends, family, work, hobbies etc.

keep em coming, it's good for the soul x

DH and I are both second time around. We have our moments but I do love him and I'm much happier than I was.

I spent two hellish years under the same roof as XH while the divorce went through. That was nine years ago. I've got most of my marbles back; a job he would have thoroughly disapproved of; a house which, whilst not tidy, is not so full of old crap that you can't sit down or move across a room without hopping; two cats; and various DC either living here or dropping in as and when. Oh, and a car he will never get to take off the road for spurious reasons but somehow never fix, nor can he sell and replace it with a rusty junk heap or three! Can't be bothered getting a new partner; I can only imagine it would spoil things.

I would actually thank my exh for having an affair if i ever saw him again. It set me free to find someone who has shown me what love is actually all about.

Hang on in there op, the shit bit will soon be over.

Not me, but divorce was the best thing my parents ever did! They were miserable for far too long before they eventually did it, which was miserable for me and my sister as well. Both parents have "new" long term partners who they are much happier with and I get on well with both of them.

Second time for DH and me too. My god the difference a happy healthy mutually supportive respectful loving relationship makes to everything!

Being on my own was pretty bloody good after my divorce too. I lived on my own for the first time in my life which was terrifying to contemplate beforehand but so liberating and wonderful once I did it.

It depends what your marriage is like how different the future looks once it's over. But despite my worries before it happened, the day my absolute landed in my letterbox I felt truly free. People feel all sorts of different things when it's finally all over. But for me it was the end of something stressful and painful and awful and the start of my new life.

Best free entertainment I ever had was watching my ex's life go down the pan.
He had a house, a good job and was healthy.
The OW was expecting after 7 month's , he was livid, as he didn't want anymore. He actually asked if I would take him back if he walked away from her, I laughed in his face and told him he wasn't the man I had fallen for 20 years before, and had made his bed and should lie in it.
He had to move house, and lost his job, you should hear her moan at him about this wasn't the life she wanted, and how come I get nothing from him yet still have the same life I had when we split.... When he phones to talk to the Children he tried to chat to me, like we used to, , even after 15 years we still used to flirt and tease each other on the phone, till I found he had cheated.
Seems she isn't me, can't budget, won't let him go out to see his friends, can't cook, nags, I asked him once why did you leave, and he said he was getting old was frightened i would leave him so he cheated as this OW flattered him, she was a gold digger and has hit crap not gold...