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TO think this is really selfish

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Icklepickle101 · 12/08/2017 02:16

I've had a bad day, got some rubbish news re fertility at an appointment this evening. DP cuddled me for about 30 minutes and then went out to watch the football at his friends house, he'd already been to the pub for 1 pint in his way home so was driving. I haven't heard from him since. No text, no call and he isn't home. His phone has died and none of his friends are online on Facebook.AIBU to think this is really selfish? Now I'm sat up worrying about him while he is probably passed out drunk on someone's sofa, I'm really upset about it!

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AntiHop · 12/08/2017 02:18

Yanbu. It's not fair on you to leave you wondering where he is.

DeadGood · 12/08/2017 07:21

Any news OP?

Lavabravacava · 12/08/2017 07:22

How are you today?

kingofthemingers · 12/08/2017 07:23

It is incredibly selfish. Hope you're ok.

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Icklepickle101 · 12/08/2017 08:23

Still nothing...

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Buddy14 · 12/08/2017 08:32

Possibly he's upset too but this is selfish and he needs to recognise this. Poor you OP
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EarlGreyT · 12/08/2017 08:36

Hope you're ok. Sorry to hear you had rubbish news from your fertility appointment.

It is incredibly selfish. I wonder if he's gone to his friends and got plastered as his way of dealing with the bad news. I don't think that excuses his behaviour and he should be more supportive rather than have buggered off to his friend's house, left you on your own and then worrying about him.

I hope he's back soon.

SheSaidHeSaid · 12/08/2017 08:41

Not fair on you, whether his way of dealing or not.

I hope he comes home soon. And, if it were me, id have to say that I was hurt by his actions so he knows for future that he can't just disappear when you need him the most.

Look after yourself, treat yourself to something if you're able to today.

vivahaters · 12/08/2017 08:44

So sorry about your fertility issues OP. I have then as well and I know how unbearably hard it isFlowers Your oh is being really thoughtless and unfair. I'd make that very clear to him when he finally gets back.

I've just posted about partners and football as well. There must be something in the air this weekend.

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Icklepickle101 · 12/08/2017 10:46

I've gone out to see my mum just had a text. "I'm sorry, I'm home now"

I understand he needs some headspace but so do I, and after going to sleep at 2, DS waking up at 3 & up for the day at 6 I'm exhausted

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DeadGood · 12/08/2017 11:33

So what are you going to do about it?

How would he react if you went AWOL on him? Leaving him with the children? I suggest you ask him.

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