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For shouting at her?

59 replies

Gibble1 · 11/08/2017 23:06

I was deep in discussion today with 3 of my bosses. I was standing in a doorway. Another staff member came up behind me and stuck her fingers in my ears.
I whipped round shouting "Jesus DON'T do that to me! You didn't know if I was going to turn round a punch you!".
I'm not close to this person but actually had no clue who it was- just an instinctive reaction. I mean who the hell actually DOES something like that in a work environment? We are actually a registered profession too which makes it even more bizarre behaviour.
I'm still cross about it now!

OP posts:
tobee · 12/08/2017 00:10

Sorry but what are "wet willies"? I'm too scared to google.

tobee · 12/08/2017 00:10

X post!

elephantoverthehill · 12/08/2017 00:12

You have 3 witnesses. Make a complaint, especially as it is known that you have a hearing problem, it goes against so many protocols. is that the right word?

steff13 · 12/08/2017 00:17

A wet Willie is when you lick your finger and stick it in someone's ear.

ExplodedCloud · 12/08/2017 00:17

Place marking for the explanation: )
But no, nobody's allowed to stick their fingers in my ears. Even if we share genes.

ExplodedCloud · 12/08/2017 00:18

Oh bleurgh.

madja · 12/08/2017 00:20

One licked my arm once. Seriously.

justilou1 · 12/08/2017 00:24

I would definitely let her know that regardless if her intention, it is still assault. Her fingers were inside your body. It's a sort of digital rape if you wish... Definitely make a complaint. It's inappropriate, intrusive, unsolicited and downright creepy!

intergalacticbrexitdisco · 12/08/2017 00:28

I have autism and would go completely berserk if someone did this to me. It needs to be quite clear it is unacceptable.

RonaldMcDonald · 12/08/2017 00:37

Shouting was fine, hitting potentially not but probably excused as attack on a person

Ankleswingers · 12/08/2017 00:44

What a peculiar thing to do Shock

Even in normal circumstances that's odd, but at work? Definitely not.

YANBU.

Incidentally, would someone mind telling me what a wet willy is please? want to try it out on DH

BlessYourCottonSocks · 12/08/2017 00:44

I would make a formal written complaint about this person. And I would expect it to be followed up extremely seriously. She needs a written warning as a minimum. You were in a professional work environment and were physically assaulted in what sounds like a really humiliating manner in front of your bosses . And this person has done it to others? It's appalling and she can't be allowed to continue this type of behaviour. She would be fucking regretting doing it to me.

And honestly, I think you did well not to deck her. I would have lashed out and gone nuts. I think you were bloody restrained to simply shout.

steff13 · 12/08/2017 00:49

I get really bad swimmer's ear in my left ear. It's very sore a lot of the time. I would have turned around and punched her if she had touched my ears. It would have been instinct.

madja · 12/08/2017 00:58

A wet Willie is when you suck your finger, and then stick it in someone's ear Smile

DopeyDazy · 12/08/2017 07:19

For steff13 i go swimming 5 times a week and put a spray of Earol olive and tea tree oil in each stops swimmers ear happening
On phone so cant post link im afraid

PastysPrincess · 12/08/2017 07:44

I have a phobia about my ears being touched; this has given me heebie jeebies just reading it. If it was a one off I would settle for a quiet word but as she has done this before and hasn't got the message I would make a complaint to HR.

PastysPrincess · 12/08/2017 07:45

Oh and a wet willie would be the stuff of nightmares for me.

Katastrophe13 · 12/08/2017 07:58

I shouted at a colleague who dug me in the ribs at work. Poking fingers in ears is much more intrusive. Yanbu!

HashiAsLarry · 12/08/2017 08:03

What a completely wierd thing to do. I'd have shouted too at the very least. I wonder what possible explanation there is for that.

ButchyRestingFace · 12/08/2017 08:08

It could be construed (by your bosses) that colleague thinks they are so dull that she was doing you a favour, plugging your ears so you didn't have to listen to their inane chatter.

A particularly paranoid individual might perhaps think that you had told her they were as dull as fuck and her actions were intended to be a sort of 'in' joke between you.

Your bosses must be rather ineffectual to have just sat there gaping rather than deal with her behaviour.

Badgertastic · 12/08/2017 08:13

I would make a complaint to HR. That is not acceptable behaviour.

abigailgabble · 12/08/2017 08:26

uurgh YANBU tbh I would probably formally complain to HR, particularly as you are hard of hearing. what a goady fucker! needs to learn a lesson!

MissionItsPossible · 12/08/2017 08:37

What the actual hell? Not just at the OP but similar stories other people have posted. I've never witnessed this behaviour in any place I worked and if anybody did that to me unawares I would actually turn around and hit them

JWrecks · 12/08/2017 08:52

Wait wait wait hang on please just a second...

IN your EARS??

So you're at work, and in a conversation, and she came up behind you and stuck her FINGERS
IN
your EARS??

Surely that's not what actually happened, and I am misunderstanding this thread? Right? Because who the fuck does something like that?

Cruciatus · 12/08/2017 08:57

I was going to turn round and punch you

Who the hell says, and means, things like this? It's so aggressive and violent. She stuck her fingers in your ears, there's no question that this is odd and invading personal space but punching someone?

I would rather work with someone who had to be reminded about personal space than someone who has such simmering rage in them.