Popping in for a coffee!

[ladybird69]

Is it just me? I was just locking up last night to go to bed when there was a knock on my door, it was a woman I know from school, she said she was just going home from a night out saw my lights still on and thought that she would pop in for a coffee! She stayed til nearly one so I have had a stinking headache all day and in shitty mood. God I'm such a doormat I shouldn't have answered the door.

Ugh, I hate people that 'pop in' unannounced. I know I sound like a stick in the mud but I think it's just obnoxious. YANBU.

What time did she get there?? Was she drunk?

Wtf? What time did she show up? Was she pissed?

Haha jinx!

I'd have said sorry, I'm off to bed! Shut the door... why'd you let her in???

I love people popping in in the day but I would not have let her in if I were about to go up to bed. How bizarre.

How weird! I'm not a fan of people who pop in at any time but that takes the piss. Why didn't you say you were on your way to bed so will have to do it another time?

I'm with Question I'd either have said "I'm sorry, I'm just off to bed" or I'd have let her in for 30 minutes and then said "It's been lovely to see you but I must be off to bed, let me get your coat"

But you're right, she was rude.

'Oh how lovely, but I'm just off to bed, maybe another time' and close door quietly but firmly. for the next time she comes round!
Yes she was being very rude, don't let her in again at that time if it's going to impact your next day.

A bit selfish on her part. And also weird that she would turn up at that time. I had a mate turn up at half 11 one night asking for a shower cos she had no hot water. I said yes even though I was actually in bed, but I wish I had the balls to say no cos she doesn't know when to leave and talks really loud and woke my kids up.

I'm not really into unannounced 'popping in' at the best of times, but 'popping in for a coffee' at night without being invited and staying until 1am is properly weird. Especially midweek.

Have to echo what others have said: was she drunk?

Popping in is a strictly daytime activity.

How odd! Then you let her in, even dafter!

Can't complain if you let her in and entertained her until 1 am. Say no.

Jeez, why did you let her in?

I understand in some situations saying no isn't always that easy, but if you can't say "not now it's my bedtime" to some random then you have serious issues with assertiveness.

It was just gone ten! I was in kitchen making my bed time drink my doors aren't locked so she saw me,waltzed in and invited herself for a coffee. I am stupidly soft but sat yawning and she talked at me for approx 2 1\2 hours. I am going to start to keep the doors locked I just hate confrontation. Don't even know why she felt the need to pop in.

Dear God why didn't you say something? Someone you hardly know walks into your house and stays for hours and you sit there till they decide to leave? 1am!!!

Next time say sorry just off to bed and show them out. God I thought I was bad at confrontation.😀

I know I'm a right mug I wouldn't have minded if she was in trouble or needed advice but she just carried on gossiping and giggling about other mums. I'm so not into that so why the hell did she think that I was! I am really a door mat need to get a back bone.

How was she supposed to know you wanted to go to bed if you didnt tell her?

It's a good thing she's not a Vampire!

Goodness 10pm and you don't have your doors locked? Where on earth do you live?

If she was a vampire she would have needed to be invited in...

This is a bit crazy OP, you could have easily said you were making your bedtime drink and needed to sleep.

That's weird.