To think this mother shouldn't have posted this on facebook?

[malificent7]

My dd like most kids gets nits. Her best mate from school also gets them.
I am continuosly treating dds hair... lotion, nitty grotty. Weekly/ fortnightly.
So is she.

My dd has long, thick haor and hates anyone touching it. Hers has short fine hair.

As far as im concerned all the kids give each other nits and we parents do our best to tame them.

I dont blame any particular child/ parent.

A whike back this mum posted on fb

" please can all parents from dds achool treat their childs nits. Im fed zo of you all giving my chikd nots. "

I knew she meant my chikd as dd still had nits after a few treatments.

How do i know her chikd wasnt giving my dd nits.
I wrote her a message and she told ne to gwt a nitty gritty. I had one!

Aibu to think this was very passive aggressive? Why didnt she speak to me directly? Also... why blame one chikd AND pist on facebook?

People were writinf bame and shame on her wall! Ive since concluded she's a prize dick! And dd has been nut free since moving from a different class to that friend!

What's 'magnificent'? She's just a girl with (infested) hair... she's not Rapunzel!!

The only reason you are fixated on the idea that she was targeting you and your DD is that you believe it to be true! She might not have any idea who in singular or plural is passing the nits on.

Saying your DD hates her hair touched is a bit of a give away that you are allowing this to happen. That's horrible to have hair crawling with lice. She either lets you treat it properly and keeps it plaited or tightly tied back at school or she has it cut short. Her decision.

Not entirely sure why you are suddenly asking this some time later whilst at a festival? Are the bands crap?

Grrr. No child should 'keep on getting nits'.

You need to be sure you are getting rid of the EGGS. Lice get killed by treatments. EGGS do not.

If you treat your DD well with Hedrin, all the lice will be gone, she will be itch-free, and you will declare it a job well done.

If you have missed maybe 1 tiny little egg, this will be entirely unnoticeable and will not cause any itching.

A week later it will hatch. Then the nits it hatches will start breeding and laying their own eggs. Then she is infested all over again.

If your DD is getting nits 'all the time', then this is a much more likely scenario than being unlucky enough to keep on getting freshly infested from someone else's head on a continual basis.

Same applies to your friend's dd as well, obviously.

Get rid of the nits.

She clearly signposted her post to 'all'. You think its about you, because you know its you.

My daughter had lovely thick long hair. It was gorgeous. We still got of the nits. The one time, that she got them. Then we sprayed her hair with tea tree mixed with water, then tied her hair up and she didnt get them again.

Sorry OP but all the typos in your first post have given me the proper giggles

Ignore nit woman, she'll live and learn.

It may look magnificent in your eyes but probably not in the other parent's. Does she wear her hair tied up etc or is her nitty mane down?
I know nits for some are a bit of a continuous struggle but if they aren't going, then something needs to change.
scratches head furiously

Can I just point out, again and again, that an electric nit comb really is the best way to rid kids of them. It also means you aren't constantly buying treatment after treatment.

Can I just point out, again and again, that an electric nit comb really is the best way to rid kids of them. It also means you aren't constantly buying treatment after treatment.

Sounds like you're not getting rid of them properly so your child is constantly infested and reinfesting her friends all the time

Hair full of lice is in no way magnificent. If she won't let you treat it properly and comb for eggs until they're all gone and then regularly to maintain, she needs to have it cut short

Are lice a more prevalent issue than they used to be?

I remember having lice once and loads of people got them at school, apart from that we never had live letters go round. We were just lucky?

Her hair has been lice free for 6 months. Also not just my eyes. Everyone loves her hair Besides dd would lynch me if i cut her hair short ( quite rightly so).

So if she's been lice free for 6 months, why do you think that Facebook post was aimed at you?

I wouldn't have replied to the FB message, as now you've highlighted that your dd has nits.
BUT You are not treating it effectively. You need to be all over it, full removal of all lice and eggs, nitty gritty without fail, and when they are ALL gone regular (I.e very frequent) washing with tea tree oil, or some other repellant. Also get it cut and make sure it's tied back at school.
Lice ridden hair is grim I'm afraid and not normal to have infestation after infestation.

Erm - why are we all assuming that OP's DD is the one doing the reinfecting?

When DS2 was at primary school there was a girl in his class who had persistent nits. DS2's hair was treated every single time he came home with even one nit, as were the rest of the family oh the joy. Time & time again, he would come home just days later with more nits. Yes, we were retreating with Hedrin after 7 days, yes we were using the nitty gritty comb & yes he had very short hair at the time.

Unfortunately though, he sat in class all day next to the girl who either wasn't being treated effectively or wasn't being treated at all.

OP states that her DD has been lice free since moving to a different class - that to me suggests the problem doesn't lie with her method of treatment!

As for the FB message though, nah - could have been aimed at anyone or no-one in general. I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

The issue is surely posting the woes on facebook surely. Plus its not within safeggarding ettiquette to single out kids online.

Just seen your update - she hasn't got nits. It wasn't aimed at you OP!

It's magnificent.. apart from the nits!

Safeguarding etiquette??? Can you explain why that's relevant/what it even is?

The fb woman is probably the one not treating her kid's hair.

And who has 'singled kids out online'?

I knew she meant my chikd as dd still had nits after a few treatments

First you said this. Now she hasnt had them for 6 months?

If she hasnt had them for 6 months then the woman is not talking about you.

Its certainly not a safeguarding issue and she hasnt singled a one child out. You just think she has.

You sound paranoid.

It's not singling particular kids out though is it? Delete or don't engage, but since your child doesn't have nits why have you decided it's an attack on you

I also think you need to make sure you are treating them properly. That means not just treating it once a week, but then going through every night wih conditioner and a comb getting rid of the eggs. Definitely tie hair back for school or have it cut short as no one will be thinking what beautiful hair your dd has, they will just be thinking its disgusting as infested with nits. I also expect the teacher does not want to get too close...

The woman did not target you directly, she did not name you, she did nothing wrong. And no it is not normal to continually be getting them. My ds has had them once in 2 years but I am always checking his hair just in case. Your dd needs to have her hair seen to properly whether she likes it or not I am afraid. And if you do cut it shorter, don't worry, it will grow again!

Hang on, she hasn't had them for 6 months but you think it's about your dd?

Who did she single out? You took a general statement to be aimed at you! Get a grip. Don't throw safeguarding around so casually.