to be a teensy bit pissed off with my SIL

[sophiewd]

who came round for supper last night and in the midst of children talk said that I should start trying for a baby now, this year rather than wait until next year because it will be too late. We have 14 month old busy B&B and would like her out of nappies, a bit independent and just like some time to enjoy her. I am just 37 and she took 6 months to concieve at 35

tell her to mind her own bloody business! too late next year .

Or do you think it was genuine concern rather than her being a buttinski?

Don't know, she was going on about age gaps being too big. Her sister had her baby last year at age of 39 but don't know if concern or meddling.

Not unreasonable at all.
I have no idea why people think a close agegap is all that good...personally the opposite is the case...had 6 1/2 years between es and ms and only 21 month between ms and ys....and I know which gap I choose...and it isn't 21month, lol!In the end it's your own business not hers.

Sorry ranting now, she also siad that I wasn't being godd by using disposable nappies, she didn't, we tried, but found that i couldn't get out of the house becasue I was constantly washing, we have three B&B rooms, mine, dd's, and Dh's wasinh plus nappies leads to 4- 5 washes some days. I have a life outside of a relationship with the washing machine. It just seems to me that everything I say she disagrees with. She was banging on last night about how my father didn't like his son her DH, (we have different mothers) and he neverwent os ee him play rugby at school, was put inot boarding school at 6 etc, My father was in the army at the time, was the done thing and guess what we were put in boarding school and he never came to see us. And her kids spent all day Sunday telling my friends daughter that she was fat and her ass was too big to get through the door, wouldn't fit on the sofa and even called my DD fat, she is 14 months and instead of teeling them off all she siad was no she has chubby cheeks.

Rant over

A teeny bit pipped off?!! I'd be running round the garden frothing at the mouth with rage. Sounds like my SIL, (MIL lovely) she thinks I'm the epitomy of evil cos I make my ds walk a mile to school. Put it down to jealousy and insecurity.

Sorry i would be showing her and her family the door, telling them when they learn some manners then they will be welcome back.

By the way i am 37, and 18 weeks pg with my second dc. It has taken me 2years to fall pg, but it also took me 2years to get pg with dd at the of 34, But i didn't put us of ttc also i didn't want a close age gap, dd is very independant and is happy.

yes you are - SILs and other members of the extended family are only trying to help. Count yourself lucky she cares enough to comment. Only giving her opinion, you don't have to act on it, do you dear? Don't be too harsh on her. In all fainess, it is kinder for your dd to have a little brother or sister sooner rather than later.

I'm sorry peeved, help!! Sounds more like interfering from where I'm standing. Sophiewd, you're not being unreasonable at all, your SIL needs to get a life, rather than sticking her nose in yours.

Well, considering the thread peeved started yesterday re her nieces name i'm not suprised she thinks that.

None of your SIL business when you have kids. Do what you want. Some people love a small age gap, personally, mine are going to be nearly 3 years apart and i'm sure that will be a small enough gap. We too wanted dd to be more independant when we have another.

Shes only trying to be helpful

Calmed down about that one now, sorry I do have a temper, but can't get over the fact that her sons are so rude and that her ahdn my brother do nothing about it. They already have friends who have refused to have their children in their house.

Oh that I can understand

I would have been very sarcastic and said if you go now we will get right on to it dont we dont want to leave it a minute longer do we

I had my last dd at 39 no problems at all