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AIBU?

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To be so against bitchy behaviour

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Wishfulmakeupping · 11/08/2017 10:17

Mulling things over so I'm sorry in advance if this is an odd ramble but a few times in my life I've had to step away from groups I've been part of because I can't stand the bitchy behaviour.
It's happening again part of a group on our new build estate I just assumed as more people moved in it would be more inclusive but the group have been quite selective who they will speak to and invite to events etc. They've started to talk about another lady who seems very nice but they taken a dislike to her and started to slag her off on the messenger group so I'm going to step away again from a group.
Everyone else seems to think this is perfectly acceptable- it used to happen at my old work one woman dressed differently from the rest and they said vile things about her.
Aibu to keep walking away? Am I being a sensitive naive soul and need to realise that people are bitvhy and get over it? It does not sit right me but I know by leaving the group I'll be next target which I will have to accept

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dollydaydream114 · 11/08/2017 10:31

YANBU. I hate this kind of behaviour too. It's spiteful and childish.

Hard to know what the answer is in terms of making new friends, but I wouldn't want to be friends with people like this. We all have a moan about people we don't like now and again and that's fine but when it's that incessant group-bitching over someone merely because they are slightly different in a completely harmless way, I can't stand it. I once worked in an office with a group of people like that and I left the job because of it - I couldn't stand one more day of hearing people sneering at other people's harmless choices (clothes, hobbies etc) or nasty rumour-mongering (assuming any man and woman who got on well at work were having an affair). So while I have no solutions I can at least sympathise.

InFairness · 11/08/2017 10:34

Yanbu. People who behave like this are not nice people. It's quite common but there is no shortage of genuinely nice people out there too.

Wishfulmakeupping · 11/08/2017 11:50

I've been biting my tongue but had to say something now even though I'll be out of the group although is being the outsider to a bunch of bitches that bad anyway?! I just feel frustrated I wanted To get along with this group of neighbours :(

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