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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Hotel on my own...tell me it won't be that bad...

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hendowoes · 10/08/2017 20:35

Going away later this month for a hen do (hence name!!) in a city about 4 hours away.

The bride is a good friend. However i don't know many of the other friends (I've met her family and school friends who are going a couple of times some years ago, but she has other friends going I've never met. Also we work together but in different depts, some of her work friends are going but i don't really know them that well, and vice versa.

The hen organizers sent us some details of 2 hotels. A few people said they might book hotel A. Because I don't like leaving stuff to last minute, hotel B didn't have any single rooms, I booked hotel A. It now seems most people are going to B. I think some others are staying in a different hotel entirely (let's call it C). I'm going to be in A on my own.

It's not the end of the world is it? I feel a bit on the periphery anyway, and this is making me more conscious of it!

It is only for one night. How bad can it be? (actually judging by the tripadviser reviews of hotel A, pretty bad).

I do travel for work and am always on my own. But I'm not part of a group on those trips, there aren't 25 other staying in a different place.

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StillDrivingMeBonkers · 10/08/2017 20:37

Does it matter if its a single room? You wont be sharing anyway.

luckylucky24 · 10/08/2017 20:38

I take it you cannot cancel your room and pick another hotel? I think it will be difficult in terms of taxis etc.

Yukbuck · 10/08/2017 20:40

I'd try and book the other hotel too. But don't worry! I think it's sort of bad organising on their part!

BlueUggs · 10/08/2017 20:43

Did you not read the reviews before you booked it? Can you change to a different hotel?

Hassled · 10/08/2017 20:45

That does sound a bit shit - I'd do what I could to shift to Hotel B. But if you're stuck in A it might actually be a nice escape if you don't really know these people - you have a reason to leave at a different time if you're not enjoying yourself.

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hendowoes · 10/08/2017 20:54

Hotel B only had double rooms which are £150, I couldn't afford that on top of the other hen costs. Main reason i went to A was it was a lot cheaper, albeit only a single room. The Travelodge and Premier Inn my usual cheap go-tos were already fully booked.

The other 2 hotels are actually quite nearby, basically in the next road (all are walking distance of the main part of town, so I assume we'll walk to and fro).

I didn't read the reviews before i booked, given it was only going to be for 1 night.

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CurlsandCurves · 10/08/2017 21:06

That sounds like my ideal situation to be honest.

Go out, enjoy the hen do, then go back to your own room and relax!

I do snore like a train so I would hate for anyone to have to share with me tho.

Rinkydinkypink · 10/08/2017 21:09

I think this is exactly how I'd want it to be. At least this way you can go back to the hotel and get some peace. A particularly good idea considering you might be stuck with a group of drunk annoying people.

OlennasWimple · 10/08/2017 21:11

Does Hotel C have a decent room available? Personally I'd try to be in the same hotel as at least a couple of others, but if you can't I'm sure you can make it work out

bunningsbunny · 10/08/2017 21:13

Have you looked at Hotel C to see if that is any cheaper? Might be worth a quick look...

Leeds2 · 10/08/2017 21:13

Sounds ideal to me!

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hendowoes · 10/08/2017 21:15

Curls, i am a snorer too which is why i didn't ask if there was anyone who wanted to share.

All the others are sharing in 2, 3 or 4s.

I'm the weirdo on my own! I'm also a bit older than everyone (they're all early/ mid 30s, I'm about 10 years older) and for medical reasons although i can drink moderately, i can't get hammered. So i prob will go earlier. My hotel is the nearest to the main strip.

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JaneEyre70 · 10/08/2017 21:19

I wouldn't worry for one night. Sounds ideal to be honest, and if you can walk there easily I'd stick with it. Hope you have a good night.

stubbornstains · 10/08/2017 21:20

This sounds like the ideal situation to me, too (also like my own space). If all the hotels are within walking distance, you can hang out with them as long as you want in the evening, and when you go back it will be just the same as if you were going to your own room in the same hotel. The only potential for being lonely, I think, will be at breakfast time, when everyone else is swapping stories in the other hotel. You could always pay just to have breakfast with them!

Iris65 · 10/08/2017 21:20

That is how I prefer to travel with groups of other people. The ability to retreat for some peace and quiet and not to be tied in with other peoples' ideas about what time to meet for breakfast for example is my ideal! I also went on holiday on my own last year and the freedom was lovely. I could go to bed and get up when I wanted. Eat what I liked when I liked and keep the room how I prefer it.
Yes, I know I am a bit of a control freak!

HipsterHunter · 10/08/2017 21:21

It's fine, you're super close. Make sure you know which rooms in the other hotel the organisers are staying in so you can meet there and you aren't waiting anywhere for them.

Iris65 · 10/08/2017 21:22

I am also older and have some health problems. It sucks being around people who don't understand or are getting hammered and staying up into the early hours - let alone sharing a room with one!

FelixtheMouse · 10/08/2017 21:27

Sounds brilliant to me. If it gets tedious/stupid you have a perfect excuse to get away and leave them to it. I'd love it.

mylaptopismylapdog · 10/08/2017 21:34

You'll be glad of the peace and the fact that when you leave will be up to you not the group.

Bombardier25966 · 10/08/2017 21:36

How bad are the reviews on TA? Is it people with unreasonable expectations or is the place nasty?

It's not a Britannia hotel is it?

TestTubeTeen · 10/08/2017 21:44

You are overthinking it!

Go, have a great time, be chatty and get to know the others, then peel off to your hotel and sleep.

Way, way better than any 3 or 4 to a room nonsense (shudder!)

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hendowoes · 10/08/2017 21:47

A lot of the reviews are bad. But mainly complaining about being charged for parking (I'm going by train so doesn't affect me), the breakfast being too expensive (again, not an issue as I'm room only and will get a mcds breakfast or something on the way to the station for my train home) or that there was no free WiFi. There were a few reviews also saying it was tired decor and some said dirty, but there were also a few that said it was fine, albeit basic. Basic is fine by me.

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luckylucky24 · 10/08/2017 21:49

If you are close enough to not get left out then you have the best of both worlds.

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