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To expect a little peace and quiet in my own home and garden?

21 replies

ForagingForFaerieGold · 10/08/2017 18:11

Just to preface - noises I am perfectly ok with:
Neighbour's toddlers tantrumming through the wall. Same playing and singing in garden with daddy.
Neighbours cars/motorbikes and arguments in the street. (Its lovely round here lol)
Next door getting up for work at 6am.
Various gardening activities (even strimmers as long as it's not for hours - I'm looking at you crazy lady who strims her entire lawn lol)
Kids playing (with the exception of serial screamers and the football hooligans association who have it in for my fence apparently)
occasional DIY (next door are currently laying a patio. I really don't mind at all - looks nice too)

So I don't think I am generally unreasonable about noise.

BUT... I am totally at my wits end with the neighbour over the back and his appalling mutt.

This poor creature (whom I've actually never seen but it sounds small and yappy) barks constantly. And I do mean constantly. I have heard it at 4am in a blizzard. It's outside 24/7 and barks most of the time in maybe 30 minute bursts with a 10/15 minute break. But sometimes for up to 2 hours at a stretch. And it's ALL DAY AND NIGHT.
I envy those who complain about dogs barking for 20 minutes in the evening. Right now I'd KILL for that lol.

Don't even try to tell me it's impossible. Unless there's more than one (could be I suppose), I assure you, it's true.
And it sets off the big dog next door to it which also seems to be out all night. (Heard him in the blizzard too)
I have been putting up with this for about a year. Tried the council when it started but they didn't do anything. One warning letter which was ignored apparently.

I was sorry for this dog at first (suppose I still am really) but my sympathy is getting exhausted now. I just wish it would run out into the road.

The general excuse for a dog outside all night is that it's a "guard dog" but really, if this is the case, how much use is a "guard dog" that barks at it's own farts?
Surely it's pointless. Or am I missing something?

This neighbour is not approachable. Very aggressive (velour tracksuit and weightlifting in the back yard lol - but seriously he's a bully and a shouter) and I am a disabled woman with anxiety problems so even talking to a fairly reasonable neighbour would worry me. I can't help it.

This man also plays music loudly for hours in the garden. A radio station evidently called "Obscure Oldies from the arse end of Motown" And does loud construction work sometimes. I don't think he gives a shit about anyone really.

The night time barking isn't too bad since I started playing very loud white noise to drown it out ( bedroom sounds like an aircraft hangar) but in the day I'm trapped in my house. I have no transport and am in ill health so my garden is really my only way of getting outside for the most part. ( I know I know, cue the violins lol)

I find it hard to believe I am the only one bothered by this. But it appears no one else has stepped up and complained. (That I know of anyway) maybe they are also afraid of this man.

He has kids (screamers) who yell at the dog to shut up and this, it seems, is the closest anyone has come to trying to "train" the dog. Of course, it only makes it worse.

This actually isn't a bad area in many ways (not posh but not really bad). I think really if this one family would move away it'd be fine. It's incredible how much racket comes from just one small house. But the main issue is the dog.
Maybe I should be grateful they don't have a trampoline but I think the only reason they don't is because the yard (really can't call it a garden. Concrete and no trees or plants at all) is too full of construction and weightlifting equipment.

Given that the council seem pretty toothless and the other neighbours unwilling/unable to do anything. Can anyone think of anything I can do here? (short of arson which has at times seemed like a pretty reasonable response)

Sorry for the long and disjointed post. I'm a bit off my game atm

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ForagingForFaerieGold · 10/08/2017 18:16

Wanted to edit but can't figure out how. Meant to say hello first and that I'm new here but a long time lurker Smile

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Angelicinnocent · 10/08/2017 18:16

If they don't have a kennel providing shelter from both sun and rain, report to the RSPCA.

Also report constantly to council. Become a daily nuisance and they should do something.

talonofthehawk · 10/08/2017 18:21

101 for noise disturbance EVERY DAY

Slimthistime · 10/08/2017 18:24

can you report it to the RSPCA anonymously?

ForagingForFaerieGold · 10/08/2017 18:28

Isn't 101 the police? I'm willing to try it but won't they just tell me to get stuffed it's not their problem?

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talonofthehawk · 10/08/2017 18:29

101- is the police but they will come round and have a word. They have for me.

ForagingForFaerieGold · 10/08/2017 18:30

The Rspca refused to come out unless I had PROOF of abuse. Hard to get really. Maybe the council again? Or 101.

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ForagingForFaerieGold · 10/08/2017 18:32

Ok talon I shall definitely try them then. Can't hurt to ask. Thank you

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ForagingForFaerieGold · 11/08/2017 00:48

Well. 101 told me they "don't deal with noise" and "It's not illegal to keep your dog outside all night" back to the drawing board I guess.
Sounds like Battersea out there atm Sad

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MsMims · 11/08/2017 00:58

The council deal with noise nuisance and have a lot more clout than the police regarding this. Keep on at them and push for sound recording equipment. You may have to complete log sheets first. It's not acceptable to subject neighbours to this, nor fair on the dog.

ForagingForFaerieGold · 11/08/2017 01:05

Agreed. In fact since I came to understand that the dog is probably suffering separation anxiety at least part of my problem is distress on its behalf. Like hearing a crying baby. It's upsetting. I filled in log sheets last year but I will get on to them again. I think maybe I just needed a push.

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ForagingForFaerieGold · 11/08/2017 01:10

Failing that I could perhaps train Devil Cat (who is a nascent serial killer) to sort it out lol. Kidding obviously

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notangelinajolie · 11/08/2017 01:32

You have my utmost sympathy. There are 3 yappy dogs living in 3 houses within earshot or my house. While I don't suspect any of the owners of abuse I do feel concerned at the length of time these dogs are left to yap. They clearly want to be let in - I can hear them yapping half a street away so why can't their owners hear them? Let the bloody dogs in ffs! And just saying ... it's naice round here and on summer nights it's perfectly safe to leave the back door open so surely if they can't be arsed getting up out of their comfy chair to let the dog in they could do this.

Aquamarine1029 · 11/08/2017 03:23

Truthfully, I fail to understand how you are even to formulate a cohesive sentence. I would be foaming-at-the-mouth-shrieking-insane because of what you're dealing with. You are an amazingly resilient person. I say call the police or whoever you need to EVERY TIME you need to until something is done. How can anyone expect another human being to deal with this??

LinoleumBlownapart · 11/08/2017 04:32

Dog barking is one of the most ecructiating noises. My neighbours all have dogs, as do we, when one goes off it starts a chain reaction and someone will yell within minutes. Luckily they are not constant barker, I can't imagine what you're going through. But surely the family themselves must be fed up with the poor dog! Record it for 24 hours. Show the council what you're dealing with. Because often they hear "dog barks" and think it's occasional, which is normal. Yours sounds far from normal.

Scotstar · 11/08/2017 05:02

Until recently I worked at a 101 service centre. Unfortunately we regularly got call like this. First off contact the council's noise team and also their dog warden. They should be able to do something about this and, if necessary, pass on any concerns 're welfare of dog to the rspca. I'd also suggest keeping a diary of dates and times that you hear the dog/barking is worse etc and any communication you have with the owner and the authorities so you have a 'paper trail. Good luck

ForagingForFaerieGold · 11/08/2017 11:38

Thank you for your replies. I do feel a bit better knowing I don't seem to be unreasonable in feeling this way. I was starting to think I might have been overreacting. I know people have it worse than me. And for the kick up the backside to try again to get it stopped.

Aquamarine1029 I don't know about resilient lol. I think I'm more stupified by now and bewildered that anyone can think this behaviour is ok. I've had it all over the years (endless DIY Neighbour. Mega loud Whitney Houston neighbour - for whom there is a special circle of Hell reserved I hope. Donkey in the living room neighbour...) but this has tipped me over the edge. Maybe I'm just getting too old for this shit now.

And to think. I "cunningly" put DD in the front bedroom because she wears earplugs all the time anyway (which I can't for various reasons) and I thought the back room would be quieter. Guess that bit me in the ass, eh? She's offered to swap with me but I don't think it would be fair. She has college etc and if my noise cancelling headphones don't block him out properly (when I'm trying to work indoors) earplugs dont stand a chance in the dead of night.

LinoleumBlownapart I agree, this is not normal. It's constant and very wearing. I shall be taking the advice of you all and start making a nuisance of myself to the council. And this time. No mercy. Lol.

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Jaxhog · 11/08/2017 12:19

Badger your council until they do something. Talk to your local councillors and get them to badger the council as well.

In the meantime, get some good noise cancelling headphones that cover your ears. Amazon sell lots.

Nanny0gg · 11/08/2017 12:23

Dog warden for advice?

ForagingForFaerieGold · 12/08/2017 12:50

Oooh Amazon! My home away from home lol. I do have some over ear phones Sony ones that are not bad. They cover most noise but not the high pitched sudden yaps. I can't afford the really good ones I'm afraid. I've downloaded some lovely Zen meditation music (with birdsong) that is a good distraction from the racket. Even when demon dog gets through it's better than having to listen to him unfiltered, so maybe I can work outside sometimes. ( Now I just need the weather to improve lol)

Right. So I have my noise app to report to the council and the neighbours are on notice.
Wish me luck.

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JsOtherHalf · 12/08/2017 13:41

I've not tried them, but these ear plugs seem to get good reviews,

www.ear-plugs.co.uk/products/isolate-aluminium-ear-plugs

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