To not want to go on this holiday?

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DP's new business venture looks like it could be quite successful quite soon. His business partner has suggested that to celebrate we should go for a little holiday - DP and I and business partner and his GF. A beach/pool holiday.

Whilst I appreciate that this is a bit of a 1st world problem, my issue is this - 4 people on holiday, 3 of them are very good looking and 1 of them (me) is still 2 stone overweight after having a baby and the least body confident I've ever been. DP and business partner are both very good looking and GF is about 10 yrs younger than me and looks like a model. I could cry just thinking about it.

I should mention I've always struggled with self esteem and body confidence and weight.

I think it sounds awful. I wouldn't go.

'A Funny Thing Happened on the Way To School' David Cali. ...am I missing something? Is this really a children's classic?

@Popfan @SunnyCoco Both your posts made me a little emotional. I've missed out on so many things in life because I didn't have the confidence. I hate the thought of going, but I hate the fact that I haven't got the confidence to go even more!

I don't know the GF, I've met her once as they haven't been together long. I can't help feeling that DP will look at her in all her bikini body glory and wonder where he went wrong to end up with me. I do realise that sounds a bit ridiculous!

I don't like beach holidays as I find them boring to be honest, but I honk it's really sad that you (and other women on the thread) feel so bad about their bodies that they would postpone doing things they want to do until they look different.
If you want to go on holiday, go.

What's your personal style?

There are loads of retro 50s style swimsuits out there that genuinely look much better on a fuller figure. Spend a bit of time on picking out some stuff to flatter your current figure, and go and have a wonderful holiday.

Personally I wouldn't go on holiday with any other couple but that's just me. Without being blunt if you are very unhappy with your weight could you try and work on this not for the holiday bur for you and you alone? I know it's hard with a baby trust me but if you took some control over this you would feel so much better for it. Perhaps start walking with the baby a biteach day.... an exercise dvd a few time a week whilst baby napped? that kind of thing. That's how I've got back in shape each time and felt so much better and less down on myself.

Then book a break for you and dh and baby if you would prefer when your feeling more 'you'.

Honestly OP, who knows what's around the corner and when we no longer have the health / wealth / chance to just grab life by the horns and go for it.
I am no oil painting, I'm overweight, cellulite, fat arse, a bit of acne, and honestly I just don't care - you are so much more than your body.
Get some lovely new dresses / coverups / whatever your style and enjoy yourself x

OP - you are the beautiful mother of your DP's beautiful child, of course he won't think that! This is your emotional brain leading your thoughts, not your human rational one. Come on, no one really cares about what other people look like - do you? Go and have a lovely time.

I'm not usually that type but what sunny said times a million!

Why not suggest a citybreak? Horrible to feel uncomfortable even though in an ideal world you shouldn't need to.

I would go and I could do with losing more like 5 stone

I'm in my 40's now and have given up careing what other people think about me. Every year I go on holiday and lie by the pool and I can guarantee there is always someone bigger or fatter than me. I see them and think well they don't care, they look fine so why am I worried?

It is definitely a frame of mind thing. I will would love to lose the weight but being realistic, it's not gonna happen so I have to learn to love what I've got.

Please don't miss out on holidays or other things for this, even if you sit by the pool covered up from head to toe all day (tell them you are allergic to sunlight or something) you should not miss out on things like this. Your DP obviously loves you as you are.

Life is definitely too short to spend it worrying. Get out there and do it!!

They are planning a holiday to celebrate a business that might do well in the future. This holiday will be with a girl you don't know well and have only met once-it sounds awful!!