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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To ask if you've recognised yourself in an AIBU?

46 replies

chickenfraybentos · 10/08/2017 12:32

I'm sure this has been asked before but can't see anything recent. Have you ever realised an AIBU is about you or someone you know? Surely the odds are that it happens every now and again!

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Twickerhun · 10/08/2017 14:14

I once posted an aibu thread and the person I posted about recognised herself (and recognised she was being unreasonable)

St01c · 10/08/2017 14:15

With regard to the detail changing to throw others off the scent the weird thing is I once told a story and changed brother to sister. But then a woman I knew asked me about my sister and I said ''I don't have a sister''. And she said ''I thought you did" and I just said 'no!' and she seemed REALLY puzzled by that, as though it was a BIG surprise, and how could it be, it's not as there was somebody in the picture like a cousin, or a friend who looked like me who might have been mistaken for a sister. Her confusion seemed extreme. And then I thought 'ah.....'. So I name change regularly aware that even if I don't recognise others they might recognise me. I have never read anything and thought omg that's so and so, or that's about so and so!

I doubt anybody would be on here ranting about me as I rarely upset anybody i'm such a people pleaser.

St01c · 10/08/2017 14:16

Twickerhun how do you know!? Did she approach you in real life? or did she pm you?

puzzledbyadream · 10/08/2017 14:16

I have recognised a friend who has quite a specific set of circumstances and had quite a large thread on here recently.

sikedon · 10/08/2017 14:21

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Twickerhun · 10/08/2017 14:22

St01c she emailed me later that day to appologise and let me know how she was rectifying the problem. She didnt reference MN. The problem had been going on for a year so it was too much of a co-incidencenit to be anything but due to my AiBU. She is also a MNttr, I believe I worked out who she is on here (and I Name changed myself).

BabychamSocialist · 10/08/2017 14:33

We once thought we recognised DP from a post. Once the OP elaborated though the details weren't the same! Damn!

Rollonbedtime7pm · 10/08/2017 14:34

Not myself but I posted about something that I found annoying and then there was suddenly an effort made by someone I knew to stop this annoying thing from happening!

I always wonder if she read my post and recognised the situation!

Original poster

chickenfraybentos · 10/08/2017 14:43

papafran

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glastogal · 10/08/2017 14:54

Not sure it was AIBU but I did recognise an acquaintance posting about an issue with her DS a few months back (it came up in active topics) and the details were exactly the same as she had mentioned the previous evening on FB. I didn't reply as it felt like I was spying on her!!

McTufty · 10/08/2017 14:58

No, which given I am recently married is a big relief. In the months beforehand I was nervous of seeing our invitation splashed all over AIBU but thankfully not!

JennyBlueWren · 10/08/2017 15:07

No but I also wonder sometimes.
My dad used to read the problem pages in Women's Weekly and say it was my mum writing in again complaining about him!

Jux · 10/08/2017 16:41

Oh go on, tell us the things that you recognise! Go on, you know you want to!

Kittymum03 · 10/08/2017 16:52

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GammaDelta · 10/08/2017 17:02

Oh havn't come across but does cross my mind every now n then.
I wonder if display named here doeshint in one persons real name

Booboobooboo84 · 10/08/2017 17:05

Omg @papafran I thought I was the only person who did that. Love a just chicken Freya bentos.

But yeah I got a bit tipsy at lunch told my friend about what me and the hubby get up to in the shed and she's posted it. The bitch.

underneaththeash · 10/08/2017 17:43

Not me, but I was standing at the school gates listening to another mum detailing her au pair issues and thought that she'd told me the story before. Turns out she hadn't, but had posted about it on mums net the previous evening.

I'd answered the post too (under a different username that is very similar to my actual name) and I wasn't particularly sympathetic. Basically she was accusing her au pair of 'stealing food' which considering that as host parents you have a duty to feed your au pairs, was a little odd.

I never worked out if she knew it was me,

SilverySurfer · 10/08/2017 17:46

Sadly not, my life is far too mundane and boring

Triskaidekaphilia · 10/08/2017 17:54

I always think I will see myself on here even though I rarely interact with anyone...

Like many others I thought I could've been 'laundry trollope' if not for the newborn

AsColdAsIce · 10/08/2017 18:48

Not quite, but I am sure that an MN user was on the radio the other day as they said 'eleventy billion'

Mumof56 · 10/08/2017 18:52

Yes as it turned out it was.

Having views like "both partners should consent to sex, and if one person changes the consent it becomes sex without consent"

is unreasonable apparently

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