To think the doctors are fobbing me off?

[DragonsandDungeons]

I've recently had a miscarriage. Picked up on scan, failed medical management followed by D&C.

Before I was pregnant, I had ultrasound scans for pelvic pain. I have endometriosis in my family, and have horrible painful periods that require tramadol and diazepam. I was told, as a teenager, "period pain is normal" by a doctor. I don't think this level is.

Anyway. The pre pregnancy ultrasound picked up an ovarian cyst. A second scan said there was no cyst.

I had lots of ultrasounds this pregnancy and they kept finding a "small hydrosalpinx" on the side where they had thought there was a cyst.

They asked me about infections. I have never had any and get tested regularly.

They've now sent me away. Everything I've read says hydro reduces chances of pregnancy. They've told me as I'm in my twenties, to go and try again.

I asked for a laparoscopy and whether this is further proof of having endometriosis and they just said "it could be, but youve been pregnant twice in three years (I have an older son who was fine) so you don't need surgery".

I'm being fobbed off. We want another baby and I feel like because I'm young no one is taking this seriously.

I should add I had scans at 16 and they found "fluid" on the left side then but it wasn't followed up either.

If it's causing you pain or discomfort then chase them up and ask to see a gynaecologist.

If it's purely for fertility reasons then YANBU. They expect 1 or 2 years trying without conception to start the ball rolling with treatments for fertility interventions. You don't fall within that.

If it's miscarriages you are worried about you have to have (I think) 3 before they start investigating.

So on the part two they will be following policy by the letter and there's nothing you can do but go private.

I do sympathise BTW. I know how hard the wait is. But it is standard, if you were older they might ask you just to try for a year. But you'd be looking at late 30s for that.

it's 3 consecutive miscarriages, so if you have one, then a baby, then another 2 it doesn't count for them to investigate.

I have had loads of investigations of this type OP because I needed IVF (for genetics, not fertility). All my ultrasound scans have mentioned something whether fluid or a cyst or whatever. It's usually nothing and I had no trouble getting pregnant.

I think you are (understsndably) starting to panic when the plan for you is probably correct. The NHS practices evidence-based medicine and so the gynae has determined this course of action works for most people of your age and in your situation.

You could always go private for a laparoscopy but I would be inclined to wait and see, as they have suggested.

If you are concerned you have endometriosis and your gp/gynae doctor isnt taking you seriously, please visit www.endometriosis-uk.org/

They have a free helpline and a great website with guides on diagnosis and management.

The level of period pain you are having that requires tramadol and diazepam is not normal and needs investigation. (think this is my mantra today! have posted this on another thread)

Being able to get pregnant previously is not a valid reason to not diagnose and treat endometriosis or investigate your severe period pain.

It is a serious condition in its own right independent of whether you want to be pregnant or not. Treating it early can help prevent progression which can help to minimise the damage it causes which amongst other things can impact your ability to conceive and carry.

You are correct to want to push for a diagnosis.

I get very painful periods but that's it. It's purely for fertility reasons I'm upset.

I know the three miscarriage rule, seems unfair three babies have to die possibly needlessly :(

dungeons

I've just had a miscarriage with failed medical management then a d&c. I'm so sorry. It was bloody horrific. I hope you're ok.

beedy the first part was horrible but the D&C was okay. Sorry for your loss

Anyone else know if I should ask for another doctor?

I have been in your exact position apart from I got fobbed off with "it's common to have heavier periods after childbirth". We had a missed miscarriage after 2 years of trying and on that scan they noted a cyst , opened me up to remove after 6 months on a waiting list and discovered Endo. I'm currently 10 weeks pregnant and praying it will stick. Keep pushing!!

Thanks user. I'm going to ask for another opinion

Anyone else? Everything I read says the hydro will mean we can't get pregnant