What to do??

[Fedupmumoftwo]

If been with my partner 4yrs we have 2 children one with additional needs and a baby.
He is so lazy! He is always keeping up appearances with his friends being the perfect dad and gmdoing partner when in reality he's lazy and abit of a slob. He is all up for buying our children expensive clothes being the doting dad to all his friends but really I think he buys them to feel less like a shit dad. If i ask him to help when getting the kids ready hate makes it seem like I always nag him yet I'm asking for help with his children the same goes for housework I early ask him for help but sometimes if I'm busy I'll as him to was a few pots 3

He sounds like an utter cunt. What do you gain from his presence at all?

(2 kids and you're only together 4 years? Didn't you realise how shitty a parent he was after the first one?)

How old isnthe oldest?

Sorry posted before I finished writing. If I'm busy I'll ask him to wash a few pots and he says I'm nagging eldest child is 3 and youngest in 15wks. I wake during the night and with baby who refuses to sleep and am in constantly knackered. He goes to the pub when he wants and I only go out with weeks notice and ensure everything is organised for him before I do. I love my partner and we have so much fun together and as a family but sometimes I feel like Iv taken over from his mum.

Why do you love him? He does nothing for his children and treats you like crap.

With our eldest child he was/is really good he has such a good bond with him but the youngest he just hasn't bonded with aswell. I just feel if I ask him to so something he makes it seem like i nag but when he does it off his own back he's fantastic.

He's a twat.

I love him because when he is being present he's fantastic. We make a rule of putting the kids to bed so we have time to relax on an evening (4-5x a week when he isn't in the pub) if that be talking about nonsense or watching a movie sometimes but very rarly we will do out on a date night and have a fabulous time just me and him but those times are few and far between and inbetween that I'm trying to be a good mum and keep everything together while feeling like a single parent. Xx

You need to sit down and discuss this with him properly, explain how you are feeling.

Perhaps some if the money spent expensive clothes etc for the kids should rather be used to hire a cleaner to lighten the load.

You are obviously exhausted, and do need more help.