to be annoyed when DH goes out drinking??

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I think I already know the answer to this (IABU) but wanted to know if anyone else feels the same. I HATE it when my DH goes out drinking with his friends - get anxious all night long and cant sleep. He seems to go into some black hole and not respond to calls or texts. When he does pick up the phone and I hear his drunk voice I instantly get so annoyed!!!

How can you ensure that though Crash not everywhere as great network coverage and what are these emergancys that either of you couldn't deal with alone?

I'll be going to Leeds fest soon, I won't even take my iPhone, but a old payg and I'm not likely to be easy to get hold of. Yes I'll check in on dd while I'm away, but not 24/7. If an emergency occurs I trust dp to deal with it.

I can empathise. I feel quite on edge when DP is out drinking and I don't consider myself to have a problem with anxiety. Obviously it's unreasonable to ring and text him as you need not to project your anxiety onto him so it's good you're getting help

let the guy enjoy himself,all these rules and regs if a partner goes out is ott

I suffer with anxiety, ocd, depression, panic attacks, ptsd and agoraphobia. I don't hound my DP when he is out. He knows i have these debilitating illnesses and he understands and he always says to me if I need him or feeling panicky to call him but I rarely do.
If course I worry when he is out but I know if anything happened he would let me know.

I don't agree with" if an emergency arises i expect DO to deal with it" what if something serious happened to the children. I would want to know, especially as our DD has a serious condition.

I don't agree with" if an emergency arises i expect DO to deal with it" what if something serious happened to the children. I would want to know, especially as our DD has a serious condition.

Was that meant in response to my post? I said I trust my dp to deal with an emergency. Of course I'd want to know and be there if something happened to my DD. I won't sit all night watching my phone just in case though. My dp works away from home and can often be on site and not get phone signal, yes I'd leave a message and he'd get to us as soon as he could. I'd deal with the immediate emergency if there was one though.

My bad Emboo19...I misinterpreted that as you would expect DO to deal with an emergency and not to contact you. I apologise

No problem Governoress

I don't really suffer with anxiety, certainly not in a way that effects my day to day majorly. However I find it a bit hard to settle when my husband goes out. Hes out tonight, goes out without me less than once a month, less than i do. I trust him I'm just dead nosey and wonder what he's up too, who's out and is there any gossip, we have many shared friends. I don't sleep brilliantly when he's not home either. I try and treat it as a nice night in and am sat eating cookies watching telly he would moan about. However I'm also up later than usual feeling I can't quite go to bed until he's in , though give it 10 more minutes and I will slope off to bed to toss and turn. Not his fault though, all me.

OP I hate it too! I do not sleep. I get all worried and I become resentful. Plus I hate dealing with a drunken twunt when he gets in.
That being saidA if he's away for the weekend, I literally have no issues. He can carry on, so what he likes and I sleep fine.

It's the waiting and worrying, knowing he will come home at some point. Now I insist he stays out with friends if he goes out (we have 2 young children)