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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To ask how to cope with out neigbour till we move

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ginorwine · 09/08/2017 09:53

Have had difficult neigbour for two years . We wanted to move and have been up and down about it for some time . We were going to move but plans have changed for a year contracted to dh situation .
Our neigbour has been building a garden house for two years now . He is spoiling the garden by banging
Sawing hoovering his shavings
If he does it not to his liking he starts again
We have negotiated that he only works 5 days a week mon to Friday now
It's his hobby it seems - I said him if we could have idea of when he will stop it wd help as you can put up with things if you kno there will be a end - he will not say. He says this is what he likes doing and implied after this there will be more projects .
I'm at a loss what to do.
We don't use our garden inthr weeksnymore unless I get up at 7 and sit there before work.
Any techniques on how to manage this pkease as I may need to change me as I can't change him.thanks . The other neighbours feel same - they cope by going out all the tine .

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ginorwine · 09/08/2017 14:01

Bump 🌿

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Babyblade · 09/08/2017 14:23

Can't offer advice, just

There seems to be lots of CFN about at the moment :-(

KeiraKnightleyActsWithHerTeeth · 09/08/2017 14:24

You like heavy metal music, no?

metalmum15 · 09/08/2017 14:43

Keira I like heavy metal music, it works a treat with my noisy fucker neighbour

youaredeluded · 09/08/2017 14:47

You can be annoyed at someone doing DIY in their own garden!!! As long as it isn't at like 4am!

FerretsRock · 09/08/2017 14:50

You need a hobby, maybe playing the drums? When he complains say it's your hobby

XJerseyGirlX · 09/08/2017 14:55

I love heavy metal music, especially playing in the garden.

MrsOverTheRoad · 09/08/2017 15:05

I agree that you can't dictate someone else's hobby or how they spend their time. Suggest he gets an extractor fan.

LorLorr2 · 09/08/2017 15:14

babyblade May I ask what CFN means, I keep seeing it but it's not in the acronyms list :)

naturalbaby · 09/08/2017 15:16

Doesn't he work? How many hours a day/week can he possibly be building?

HidingUnderARock · 09/08/2017 15:18

CF = Cheeky Fucker
CFN = Cheeky Fucker Neighbour

innagazing · 09/08/2017 15:19

CFN= cheeky fucker neighbour
it's from a recent thread

GreenTulips · 09/08/2017 15:21

My neighbors love love love to jet wash - there house gutters paving sparkles and yet they carry on!!

Ahhhh!!

Sell get your sanity back

JaniceBattersby · 09/08/2017 15:23

Honestly, the noise doesn't sound all that intrusive. If he was using a breaker or something I could understand but sawing in his garden is just normal neighbour noise I'm afraid.

BumpGoesBumpety · 09/08/2017 15:24

YABU. I don't think doing DIY (albeit very slowly) in your own private garden at a reasonable hour of day is bad. In fact if you approached me about it I'd say you were the unreasonable one. People have to be able to live in their own homes without their neighbours complaining about every day living.

CFN = Cheeky fucking neighbour.

Katedotness1963 · 09/08/2017 15:36

Since we moved into this house one or other of the neighbours has had building work done over the summer. Two years ago the next door neighbour built a huge shed in the garden (I think it's his office). Noise every day for weeks, but the day they hammered for about 13 hours actually had me break down in tears. One more summer till we move...

IloveBanff · 09/08/2017 15:40

You like heavy metal music, no?

That's very unfair on the other neighbours who will have even more noise to put up with.

user53592952153 · 09/08/2017 15:43

DIY is OK. Having a neighbour who plays the euphonium badly in their garden is not

Slimthistime · 09/08/2017 15:43

woah
you have been putting up with building noise for 2 years? And it's just because he keeps redoing his summer house?

have you talked to the council about this? What do the other neighbours feel?

I might expect constant sawing and banging if I moved in next to door to a carpentry business but otherwise, no.

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ginorwine · 09/08/2017 15:44

Kate I understand your tears
I've cried loads too
I can cope with Noise if end in sight .. but 2 soild years is too much
It's like living next to a builders yard not a garden
I crave a break !
And yes the jet thjng - he does that for an entire week too so I get it !!!
Anything with noise .

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Slimthistime · 09/08/2017 15:49

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not surprised you are crying...
I feel so sorry for you.

Akani · 09/08/2017 15:49

Does he have planning permission?

If he does need planning permission and doesn't have it, I'd advise inviting the inspector around to your place to have a chat through some "proposed extension work you are thinking of doing". I'd casually mention how fucking long the monstrosity next year has been invading my ear airspace for.

If he does have planning permission, check the length of time he has it for and how long the works were suppose to take. Then contact the planning department for advice and guidance.

WoofWoofMooWoof · 09/08/2017 15:51

When my CFN gets too loud I put on a bagpipe CD at full volume . Of course if your CFN is scottish this might not work, so heavy metal? Alternately I could lend you two DC who play cornets and recorders very badly.

milleniumhandandprawn · 09/08/2017 16:01

Oh god! I do feel for you... and but for the fact you have a DH I'd think I'd sold my old house to you!

We had a neighbour like this who was an absolute arsehole. He'd be doing his diy 7 days a week from midday (because he was a lazy bastard who wouldn't get up early) until it got dark - in the summer it was a nightmare.
His view was that it was his house and legally he didn't have to be considerate and could choose to be a horrible neighbour, there was nothing we could do about it.
His actual words!

He was also TERRIBLE at diy so had to redo stuff many times. (We did laugh at this a lot)

We tried being polite - got nowhere
We tried being rude - made him worse
He then tried some jiggery fuckery involving playing his stereo quietly on the adjoining patio when he went out - loud enough to be annoying for us and no one else.
We got the council to warn him about anti social noise and that at least stopped - maybe that could be worth a try?

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ginorwine · 09/08/2017 16:03

He has not applied for planning permission
I wrote to the council about this big structure being built but no reply
I rang environmental health they said as it's in certain hours it's ok
I thknk he has built it too big as flammable buildings are not supposed to be so close to boundary .
I do worry tho about disputes tho as we may move next year and I think that you have to record any disputes ? In addition , we have access across our garden to his ( carries his stuff across for hours ) and we have to allow that and he passes my French door at back of house ( with the right to ) when he wants to .
We have tried telling him the impact - he just avoids eye contact . We have e mailed saying we can manage but please say when it will stop ( within say 6 month guess ) he says it is what he likes to do and will not give end date . It's so annoying as he actually walks across our garden too .
I feel like pranking him . I can't put loud music on as it wd affect others . Other neigbour hates him !

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