People continuely taking photos

[Brokenme]

So we went to stay with friends for a few days with another couple. The husband of the other couple was continual taking photos and uploading to social media which made me feel like I couldn't relax as he was taking photos of everything and not in a 'posed' way so there were all sorts of horrendous photos of me being uploaded. Am I being vain to feel so uncomfortable about this and that I couldn't totally relax as I didn't know what would end up being shared with others! I will add that I've recently had our second child and I'm
a little tubbier than I'd like to be so this may have added to me feeling self conscious but I feel my weekend was spoilt by his constant snapping!

I feel a little like this with DW's photo taking sometimes - first of all I don't like photos of myself, but I also feel that sometimes you can't enjoy a moment or a laugh because someone is intent on getting a photo of it!

You can minimise the effect by changing your Facebook settings. Change the settings so if you are tagged, you have to approve it before the tag is posted with the photo. That way at least you and your friends aren't inflicted. I hate this sort of thing too, although if you have already said something it's hard to stop sometimes.

YANBU.

I absolute hate having my photograph taken anyway, but why people have to document and share every minute of a night out, BBQ or whatever is beyond me. It's like some people don't experience the 'event' as they're too busy snapping away!

A few pics - fine (as long as I'm not in them), but it's every 2 minutes. My close friends aren't really like this, but work nights out are a pain in the arse for it. I have been known to tell people to fuck off with it - ray of sunshine that I am.

YANBU. I don't think this is anything to do with feeling a "little tubbier" than usual. I find this type of thing really intrusive and had to sit a family member down and tell her so after she followed me round for a weekend taking photos but hardly actually spoke to me at all. I get that some people choose to document their entire lives on social media and I'm happy for the odd snap of me to get uploaded from time to time (although not on fb myself). I just don't want my every move shared with the world. I find it weird. Did you actually say something to the DH though? I'd have got up and left the room/ had a conversation with him when it became a problem.

I fully understand your opinion but I think it's the new normal, and we all have to get used to it.... Photos, videos, ... I don't really get why people enjoy looking at a stream of these photos and videos on their phones, though.

YANBU - I'd feel the same, but thankfully my friends don't do this. I think I'd have to say something.

definitely not BU this bugs me to death! Just enjoy your dayout without having to share to the world to show them how great of a time your having just for the sake of a few likes!! I HATE SOCAIL MEDIA

YANBU
I find it tedious that people feel the need to document absolutely everything they do and upload it on social media for all to see. It drives me insane. The amount of people you see taking selfies etc is obscene - we have turned in to a nation of narcissistic budgies who can't seem to get enough of photographing ourselves and everyone else! It's odd.
We went out for the day to a lavender farm recently which was lovely but literally everyone around us spent the entire time posing or with their selfie stick out. Children were being dragged away from enjoying the flowers to pose in their yellow outfits... countless 'boomerang' swaying and peace signs and not one person was remotely interested in visiting the distillery to learn about the farm until it chucked it down and they needed to run inside to keep their hair Instagram worthy. It's all just bizarre!
I have close friends who have created entire fake personas online and behave the exact opposite to how they do in RL to the point where they seem unrecognizable.
It's just so weird.

I realise I may have gone off on a bit of a rant there

Definitely not being unreasonable!

I was at Arsenal vs Chelsea at the weekend and during the penalty shootout the amount of people watching it from their phones while taking pictures/videos was astounding. And extremely off putting. The same with selfie sticks, people never seem to go to watch the actual football anymore, it's all about how many pictures/videos/social media likes they can get

YANBU

I would have asked him to stop or leave. I find it weird when people do that. Instead of enjoying the time with the people they are with, they spend it trying to impress thier m fb friends.

Yanbu, I hate this bullshit. It's the liveblogging aspect, it's like living in a fishbowl. And I have stalky relatives with whom I have nc so I'm careful about what I put on fb.

I had a friend put photos on fb she took of me at my wedding (along with an announcement about it ffs). Another put a photo of my house (address clearly visible) on his fb. I asked him to take it down. I don't care how unlikely it is that someone would use it for nefarious deeds (see stalky nc relatives above), I have been careful with what I put online, why should I just stand by while others fuck it up?

I give people that look, and tell them not to take my picture.. I don't even recognise myself on photos.
I look beyond repulsive.
I remember when my friend had a baby and I was holding her. Next second I looks up and and sees a camera staring at me held by babys auntie. Who knew I did not like cameras.

Me- Erm What are you doing.
Babys auntie. Getting your picture.
Me. Well dont, please.
Baby's auntie. Don't you want your picture taken with the baby.
Me. No I don't. Ive just about pictures of me with my own baby.

I'm not shy. I won't be put on the spot.
No matter how uncomfortable it makes others feel.

YANBU. I don't think anyone should post on social media unless they have the permission of all those in the photo. Once it is out there, who knows where it will end up?

We are in an airbnb and there are a kazillion social media type photos all over the place - ye olde trout's, drinking with mates, selfies in mirrors, arse in (Just) short shorts. It is unnerving in the bog...... Especially granny with the glassy eye and daddy letching over the twenty something friend. Not what you want when having a squeeze.

More depressing is the huge queues of people going to the galleries to view the pictures through a viewfinder. So many people not bothering to look at the piece in front of their noses. Click at the picture click at the explainer next to it but not stopping long enough to look at the picture. Click click next masterpiece.

Thanks for the replies. Glad it's not just me being precious. It really made me feel I had to watch where he was so I could tell if he was taking my picture which didn't make me feel relaxed at all. Someone asked if I said something and I did ask him a couple of times not to but probably it came across more jokey than serious. No one else seemed that bothered so it does make me feel better I'm not alone in thinking it! A few pictures of us all together would have been nice but feeling like someone is capturing you every move just feels odd and who wants to look at a gazillion photos of someone else's weekend away anyways?! I probably need to learn to be more assertive! Any tips on what I could say in future situations without making myself look precious?

I don't mind the taking of photos but it really pisses me off when people then upload them to social media without asking. I just think it's rude. My sister does this a lot and I hate it. She also posted a huge album of pics she'd scanned from our childhoods, including loads of my most awkward, horrible teenage phase when I was really unhappy and looked like shit. So that was a joy.

I agree - I hate it. Hate having my photo taken anyway, but will tolerate for immediate family, as they know not to upload me onto social media sites. SiL always makes snarky remarks as when she wants to take group photos and insists I join in, I'll usually hide behind someone, then she accuses me of 'spoiling' the photo. No - I'm not spoiling the photo - everyone else is in it, quite happily. I don't want to be in it and plastered all over Facebook.