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To be disappointed at dentist?

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sailorcherries · 08/08/2017 12:50

I had my routinely 6 month check up in April, where I met my new dentist. She thought everything seemed okay but wanted up to date xrays of my teeth, however being 8 months pregnant this was put off until an appointment in July.

Prior to this dentist I had one for a year and one for 20+ years. Neither the interim year long dentist or the older dentist had xrayed my teeth in about 5+ years.

At most prior appointments my teeth were signed off as fine and I've had a handful of fillings on my back teeth (chipped tooth after being hit by a ball, cracked tooth and a few little bits here and there). Overall I'd say my teeth were in pretty good shape. I brush them 3-4 times a day, use mouthwash and oil pull.

I had braces fairly late on in life, at 17 (despite seeing specialists for at least 8 years), and got them rempved at 19. The gap in my front teeth closed and I was happy. This lasted until I was 22 and they opened again. New dentist confirmed it was a wrong permanent retainer (plastic behind two front teeth instead of six front teeth to hold in place). She said after my xrays we'd get back on the orthodontics referral and get then fixed.

My xrays came back and showed three fillings needing done, not visible to the naked eye, as they were under the tooth. They also showed a few 'maybe areas'. One area so bad that it may need a crown in a year or two, I'm 24!
We got everything sorted in two appointments (last one being today), and suddenly I'm told no referral will be made but decisions postponed until my next check up, at the beginning of next year.

I know she is doing her job. I'm not mad at her. I am however beyond pissed off that my previous two dentists missed these issues which resulted in them becoming much worse. According to new dentist being pregnant can cause tooth issues, which should be monitored and it wasn't (2 pregnancies), as can the fizzy juice craving I get only when pregnant. If picked up years ago when they developed many of the maybe issues wouldn't be present and the bigger issue wouldn't have become as bad.
I'm annoyed that my gap issues were fixed for 2.5 years, after waiting almost a decade (including the referral process), and now I need to wait again.

I spoke to my dad and OH and both think I'm being silly. I hate my teeth. I hate the gap that so obviously draws attention, I cannot smile with my mouth open, I don't open my mouth wide enough when I speak or eat and I am deeply self-concious and insecure. Aibu to be quite upset that this has been pushed aside again, despite being told for years that my teeth were fine?

I know I'm not some one toothed hillbilly, my teeth are fairly white, clean and look in reasomably good shape, but this gap is a confidence killer and I finally thought it would be fixed, again.

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HipsterHunter · 08/08/2017 12:57

If you hate your gap just pay and get it done privately? Hardly any cosmetic orthodontics work gets done on the NHS anymore.

You said yourself you drink loads of fizzy drinks... that is a massive killer of the teeth :-(

Do you floss properly? That is much more effective than oil pulling.

Do you use a good quality electric toothbrush?

Do you go to the hygienists ever 4 to 6 months?

When are you brushing? Brushing straight after e..g a fizzy drink can make things worse re the enamel.

Sounds like your previous dentist could have been much more proactive on your dental health but you have to take a fair amount of responsibility for it yourself.

HipsterHunter · 08/08/2017 12:59

p.s. if you are oil pulling for 20 / 30 mins a day you would be MUCH better devoting that time to a good brushing and flossing regime.

toastandbutterandjam · 08/08/2017 13:01

You're not unreasonable to be upset. I saw several specialists regarding my teeth when I was a teenager (from the age of 9). I ended up being refused braces and ended up with a 15mm over-jet, inability to close my mouth, severe crowding on my upper teeth and moderate crowding on my lower teeth. I hated opening my mouth etc, speaking, meeting people - at one point, I wouldn't leave my house.

I got a referral to an orthodontist 2 years ago, who said they'd fit braces, they did x-rays and found I needed some work done that wasn't visible without an x-ray (some of it was because I couldn't clean my teeth properly due to the severity of the crowding etc) My previous dentist (I changed dentists) missed it as they hadn't x-rayed my teeth since I was 14! I eventually got my braces on exactly 15 months after those x-rays were done. It was a long 15 months, I was annoyed as I wouldn't have had to wait 15 months if i'd had an x-ray when the referral was sent!

I know what it's like to hate your teeth, have no confidence and hate smiling - it really is awful. You're not at all unreasonable being upset, but hopefully this time next year, you'll be on your way to getting it sorted. I never thought i'd get there - there was always a reason why my braces couldn't be fitted, but I have them on now in my mid 20's.

Best of luck!

dementedpixie · 08/08/2017 13:02

3-4 times a day is a lot of times to brush. Depending on your timings you could be eroding your enamel. You also shouldn't use mouthwash straight after brushing as you wash the fluoride away from the toothpaste. Could you get private treatment for the gap? Dd didn't qualify for orthodontic treatment for years as her teeth weren't bad enough until then!

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 08/08/2017 13:03

YABU,yes. It's normal not to have X-rays for 5 years. You needed a few fillings, and they've been done. Big deal. You have a gap- if you want it fixed then go privately. So what if you need a crown at 24! You're 24, not 4. Hmm

Bellabooboo · 08/08/2017 13:05

What does your dentist say about your oil pulling? Mine says it's a waste of time.

What the posters above said. Yes they could have done X-rays and yes you could have looked after your teeth better.

You'll have to pay for your ortho work you won't get it on NHS

sailorcherries · 08/08/2017 13:08

My orthodontics should have been completed by the age of 13/14. I saw one orthodontist until I was 15 who missed the fact I have one missing tooth (resulting in the gap as the teeth had room to move). He wanted to break my jaw, reset it, chip away bits of jaw etc.
I also have a slight overbite which did correct itself (it was more severe) and my back teeth don't align properly when biting.

My fizzy juice habit was maybe one or two glasses a day from 6 months pregnant until the end. Aside from those 3/4 months I don't drink fizzy juice, mainly water or a little dilutinf juice.

I brush in the morning before my shower. I then brush after breakfast before leaving. I use mouthwash if out and about. Brush at night before bed. The extra time might be before going out for dinner/a night out etc.
I do floss and only oil pull at night.

I didn't realise you could over brush teeth!

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sailorcherries · 08/08/2017 13:10

It isn't normal to not have xrays apparently, considering the ongoing work and the issues that could have been recitifed a long time ago in terms of orthodontics.

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InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 08/08/2017 13:13

Well, I used to be a dental nurse and I can assure you that it is not necessary or desirable to have your teeth X rayed at every appointment, or any more often than every few years unless you have problems.

sailorcherries · 08/08/2017 13:16

I have structural problems with my teeth, including the gap/missing tooth/back teeth not being aligned and causing pain and overbites.

They shouldn't be xrayed at every appointment. My teeth hadn't been xrayed since before my braces, she didn't even have up to date ones about the position of my teeth or the teeth removed etc for orthodontics. She assured me that wasn't acceptable.

Now I'm upset as it's a further wait and will be paid for by me, as they cocked up so badly during my childhood.

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toastandbutterandjam · 08/08/2017 13:19

By the way, what is oil pulling? I've never heard of it. I floss, mouthwash and brush Hmm

And you can over brush your teeth - I was always told never to brush more than 3 times a day (with braces), before that it was no more than twice a dayGrin

nikiforov · 08/08/2017 13:25

I had xrays just for a regular needed filling. I think it's more normal now because of the "hidden" cavities.

GaryBarlowsTaxReturn · 08/08/2017 13:26

Yes you can ovrbrush. My DH has enamel erosion from over brushing. Oil pulling is a load of pseudoscience.

DieSchottin93 · 08/08/2017 15:36

I had a routine check up last month and had an X-ray, my (new) dentist told me they do a routine X-ray every 2 years. And 3-4 times a day is definitely too much to be brushing your teeth, if I were you I'd drop the pre-shower brushing and just leave it until after breakfast.

sailorcherries · 08/08/2017 15:39

Thanks everyone. Feeling slightly better about things and I'll just use this time to save and think about the different options I have.

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