Better relationship with Ex's partner than him

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Ex got with his gf when we split and I was pregnant. Although it was very hard at the beginning, I now have a better relationship with her than I do him. To the point where I very rarely see him and if I need to make arrangements I go through her instead.

AIBU to leave him out the loop? I'm essentially co-parenting with his gf! He doesn't seem remotely bothered about this and seems happy to leave us (and I suspect, the majority of the childcare) to her.

I would say well done on putting in initial feelings aside and doing what is best for your child. It is far easier to deal with someone who is amenable. My only concern, does he actually see and spend time with his child? I ask because you say that most of the childcaee is left to her.

I must admit, it has taken me a long time to get to this point and to let go of arguing for arguing's sake but thank you

He is at the house when I drop LO off but rarely answers the door and as to what happens once the door is closed, I honestly don't know. I know she does the nursery runs most weeks but I don't know what hours he works. LO refers to "daddy" so he must be there and involved. I'm just not sure to what extent!

I had this with my ex's GF. I never expected to even like her, but she became my co parent because she was fantastic with my daughter & really seemed to love her. I felt so lucky & was really pleased when they got engaged because I couldn't have imagined a better step mum for my girl.

I was upset when he dumped her for someone at work!

I actually feel a bit sorry for her being lumped with ex! Maybe he's changed now but he's my ex for a reason and if she feels anything like I did, her life must be a little bit miserable! Hopefully having my LO around brightens that for her. Like I say though maybe he's changed now!

I was sure he'd found the right woman in his EX. Me and him were never a good fit, but he seemed to be so settled with her & I thought he treated her well but apparently not as he cheated on her.

I was gutted for her & for my daughter as there was a lot of love there, I could tell. They still see each other though!

It's nice when everyone gets along isn't it?