To change nurseries

[slytherindungeon]

Hi everyone,

I really need someone who is impartial to tell me if IBU!

My 10 month old daughter just started full time nursery last week. She's settled in fine with no tears etc, maybe a little unsettled at night but thats it.

Since then we have had to sign 2 accident forms in 5 days. One of the forms 'was for 2 but we just put in on the one'. So really 3 in 5 days.

I understand that she is standing and trying to cruise at this age and I'm trying to be rational that obviously she'll fall more than if it were just me and her. It's just really heartbreaking to be nervous picking her up and wondering if when I get there will she have another big bump on her head.

I'm feeling a bit funny about the whole thing tbh. The staff seem very young and even her report cards at the end of the day seem incomplete - the last two I received didn't have any 'activities' filled in.

When I arrived today she was in a random collection of clothes - when I asked if she had had an accident they told me she'd been changed 3/4 times due to her teething. This was mostly my fault as I'd forgotten to put a bib on her but wouldn't you expect them to have some spare?

Sometimes on her report card they say she has 'brushed her teeth' - even though she has no teeth and I've never provided a toothbrush?

Honestly I don't know what I should be anxious or concerned about anymore, I don't know what is the normal and don't have many parent friends to reassure me!

Would IBU to change her nursery?

Its your choice I guess, but accidents and bumps will happen 1000 times a day. In every nursery across the world.

I wouldn't be happy with this either.
The clothes I wouldn't worry about but I would worry about everything else.

If it helps both my kids have regular accident forms - no least because they are interacting with other kids as well as their environment. It's how they learn. Obviously, certain things like regular head injuries shouldn't happen and that would worry me if it was a mechanism that shouldn't happen or suggested attention not being paid to the child.

Sorry clothes get soiled and changed and changed for spare clothes if not enough provided. Clean dry clothes are nicer than soggy wet clothes - and mismatching clothes happen. What used to annoy me would be the rummaging through the bag and how untidy my daughters stuff would be stuffed back in and then I gave my head a wobble - its not about just my kid. We have a fabulous nursery and they are brilliant with my kids but those things you describe happen.

Your kid will get regular illnesses.

Oh and the tooth brushing is an actual thing - they get them used to it from an early age even before teeth as part of their routine.

And my child had 2 brushes given to her in nursery for nursery use.

Ask about the teeth brushing.

Clothes - isn't it great that they are changing her quickly rather than leaving her damp? Not their fault you forgot to send spare bibs.

Incomplete diary - wouldn't bother me at all. Get a verbal handover. They are looking after babies on a 1:3 ratio so they are busy - filling in the diary should be the last priority.

Accidents - depends on how serious and what the circumstances are, but I'd expect minor bumps and scrapes most days tbh!

Ah thank you hopeful31yrs, I was hoping someone could talk me down.

It has been head injuries every time but I suppose the rest of her is pretty padded/soft at the moment.

I wasn't sure about the tooth brushing but had suspected that was the case.

I'm a bit type A and obviously this is my first child which doesn't help much. I'm already struggling with the guilt of leaving her in nursery full time but to get back and have her injured and what seems like a lackadaisical approach to filling out her report card frustrates me a little. The 'stuffed bag' also makes my head wobble!

The accident thing is hard, your dammed ether way, if you don't do an accident form and something happens at home it wrong, but full out too many accident forms and it's wrong. It's a fine line tbh, does she have accidents at home.

One way to think of it is if you were looking after someone else's child and they had a bump would you tell the parent.

There's a limit to how many spares a nursery can store, you are looking at a selection of boys and girls from 0-5 years it's a huge amount.

I would ask about the teeth.

What I would do would be to pick up/drop off at random times during the day just to see what the session is like when there are no parents expected

Find a childminder. Nurseries aren't great for under three year olds.