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AIBU?

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To be so terrified

4 replies

Pickleypickles · 07/08/2017 22:10

Im moving out of my parents house on saturday, it will just be me and my 5 month old dd. I am 25 and it will be the first time I will have lived properly alone.
For a bit of backstory i currently live in my parents house but they live mainly at a different house, only stay here 2 nights a week ish. They are selling the house I'm in atm and the other house is about 60 miles away. I am moving close to where I live atm although its a new village about 20 minutes away as i can't afford to rent in the city.
I dont really have many friends (just one really, who doesnt drive) and with my parents moving far ish away and me moving further away from friends, i know money will be tight i go back to work in september but by the time i have paid my bills and for nursery i will have about £100 a month to do anything fun qith baby, days out, clothes, toys and to put petrol in the car.
So now im terrified Im going to end up trapped in a house with no one i know anywhere near and no money to do anything, i suffer really bad social anxiety and find baby groups really hard i usually just end up hiding in a corner and sneakig out at somepoint.
Has anyone got a similar experience where it all turned out fine? AIBU to be so bloody scared, keep having panic attacks thinking about it. Sorry this is just a long ramble.

OP posts:
talonofthehawk · 07/08/2017 22:22

You're 25 and a parent.
Everyone else copes, you will too.

messofajess · 07/08/2017 22:41

I think you're going to surprise yourself op.

You've got a plan set out already. New friends come from all sorts of different places. Smile and be open x

Ginlovinglady · 07/08/2017 22:49

talonofthehawk
Nice thing to say to someone who suffers from anxiety Hmm

Op, Hopefully you can make some new friends locally, I know it's hard with anxiety

If you drive you can still keep in contact with friends. And hopefully they'll enjoy coming to visit in your new home. Even if you have to pick them up!
Moving anywhere is daunting. But you sound like a capable person.

Sorry I'm not being that helpful!! I'm sure lots of people who have been in your situation will come along with better ideas!

Arealhumanbeing · 07/08/2017 22:57

Hello OP. Ignore the "tough love".

Just take it day by day. It's hard not to worry about what might happen in the future but really you have no way of knowing how things will work out.

Is a small part of you excited about moving into your new place?

Are you getting any help for your anxiety? I don't want to suggest the GP/counselling if you're already doing it.

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