to expect some tlc?

[bellarosa]

Had tonsilitis for 6 days last week, seroiusly feverish, delerious, sweaty horrible yuck! And two days in, when i'm in the worst throws of it, dh says he's going hiking in the peaks for three days and off he goes! leaving me with two dd's under 2.5!

Had to ask my mum to trek 400 miles to help me out!

when he got back had the gaul to tell me that i wasnt coaping ver well! because the house was abit messy!
ffs what does he expect!


so am i unreasonable to expect him to look after me and the dd's in my hour of need?

[duke]

No way, that was a bit mean of him. How about you go off trecking and see how he does. Poor you I'm sure you did a grand job in between sweats.

[tasja]

Poor you. Shame on your dh. He should have stayed home with you. Let the house get even more messier. See what he says then. or even better. When he gets sick, you do the same to him. You know a sick man can't cope with anything. Feeling better?

[bellarosa]

yes better now, and now dh is claiming to have 'man flu'... yerr right! asked me to make him chicken soup, and can i just do this, get that, keep the dd's quitet as his head hurts!

when i was ill he bundled them all into bed with me and went to catch his train to the peaks, not a thought as to their health, poor lambs were very lucky not to have caught my horrible bug!

[bellarosa]

anyone got any good ideas as to how i can repay his kindness?!

[yomellamoHelly]

Think that is outrageous tbh. Could let him slightly off the hook if he was at work and desperately busy, but clearly he wasn't.
I had a horrendous cold last w/e. I didn't get dressed 'til 4:30 on the Sunday and dh did loads despite never having looked after both boys before. Looking after children isn't easy when you're 100% never mind when you're ill. Time to clear some time for yourself I reckon and to not make the childcare any easier for him.

[southeastastra]

yes go out now! and let him deal with his man flu

[Soapbox]

Go and visit your mum for a couple of days and leave the children with him!

[bellarosa]

it is outrageous isnt it! think i'm gonna book myself a day at a spa this weekend, and not tell him till i'm about to walk out the door

[tinkerbellhadpiles]

Bellarosa - I'd just simply ignore him totally until he apologised. Just don't even look at him. Drives men nuts - esp. ones like this that think the world revolves around them.

Glad you are feeling better.

[bellarosa]

on his credit card no less! ( the spa day!)

[duke]

Sit on the phone and say loudly oh my gosh you're joking oh crikey then shout out to DH you must go quick and leg it out the door with out so much of a who why or what. And of course you will return later, to a quiet house with bathed fed children fast asleep and a house so clean you could eat your dinner off the floor.