Damaged computer

[bengalcat]

So kids Dad and I club together at her request to buy a computer/notebook for her birthday and sadly at a sleepover birthday party at ours a friend accidentally spills soup on it so computer trashed . DD upset obvs so I say we'll get another one . Dad an IT geek who'd chosen it originally orders another and I ping him 1/2 the cost again which I'm very happy to do . Today I find out he expects her to refund him his share of expenditure for the replacement computer . WTF ! We're separated , he has no other kids and apart from his 'principles ' forking out again is back pocket change to him AIBU to feel we should replace ourselves ?

Depends. How old is dd? Was the laptop left in an unsuitable place? Was the soup eating happening too close to the laptop?

How old?

Do you have accidental cover on the contents insurance? Claim under that.

I am not sure if I was in his position I'd want to fork out again. It wasn't his fault she didn't take care of her property. He had already treated her once.

Why did she have it at the table whilst people were eating soup of all things?

Insurance may cover it but excess and higher premiums may not be worth it. Is it too late to look at a repair? Often the manufacturers repair scheme can be cheaper than going to your local computer shop.

But to answer your question, should he pay again? It's something you and him should have agreed before ordering the replacement. My DS is 5 so when he broke the iPad screen doing something I'd specifically told him not to do, I didn't get it repaired straight away. He was sad but also needed to understand consequence.

What consequence has your DD had? Other than feeling sad and not having lovely laptop for a while? Is that enough? Only you and her dad can decide this. Perhaps she needs to earn the new one and this would appeal to her dad?

She's 16 . We've bought another one and I contributed my 50% for the replacement as I did for the original . Computer was on bedside table and kids were eating soup on the bed . Bedroom is small . Kid has saved her pocket money she gets from him and essentially her response last night was just to shrug her shoulders and say ' well the way I look at it is it technically his money in giving back ' - it was only £330 total so not worth claiming on insurance I'd say

Just to add kids dad and I split when she was three

YABU
I would be with her Dad on this one. Its not about the money but about learning to look after your own things and taking responsibility. At 16 I would expect her to be able to do this and not leave her brand new laptop in a vulnerable position.

Surely parents of friend who spilled soup should at least part contribute?

And yes, how old?

X-post, sorry!

The friend who broke the computer should be paying

Tricky one, I don't think there's one right answer but I would like to hear what the soup spilling friend said about it

Yabu. She was negligent. You are teaching her nothing by replacing stuff her mates have damaged through daft behaviour. Who eats soup on a bed next to a laptop?