Not letting my 12yr old stay on her own

[Henrythehoover]

For the next two weeks during the hours I work. I'm not happy with it as I feel she is to young to be left to her own devices for 6 hours a day. She does go out an about with her friends in the evening around the estate we live on but I'm home and so I am there is she needs me. Her brothers go to my ex mils during the holidays but she doesn't like going there so has been spending time with my mum and nan. Today ex mil was meant to have her but she refused to go and lol left her her at home for the day without telling me. I'm really annoyed and now dd is saying she wants to stay home all the time so she can go to get friends ect.

What do you all think? She thinks I'm massively u and that I treat her like a baby.

I leave my ds home alone for a few hours. He's 13 next month.

He has asd and so I have to make sure he's done everything - eat/wash/ dress etc.

He also has to text me every half an hour and answer his phone if I call him.
He says he likes it but he sits in his room in the dark under his bed with the door shut as he feels safer

I figure as long as you know a child will do as they are told and can do what they need to do when they are left it's fine.

Incidentally I wouldn't leave ds unattended around other children his age. (But then humans are a trigger point for him )