Dp saying I must be deficient in something due to tiredness levels

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Almost every day dp will say "you shouldn't be this tired, you must be deficient in something" meaning iron or something. Whereas I think that actually, I'm fine, I'm really busy though.

A typical Monday - Friday is waking at 6am, waking ds at 6:30 and taking him to work with me (nanny) I leave home at 7:40, cycle there, arrive at 8!

I look after a 2 year old boy all day along with my ds who I home school, then at 6pm we leave and cycle home. I then do laundry, cook the dinner and put ds to bed.

I go to bed about 10:30. But on a Friday night dp and I play pool until 11

On a Saturday I wake at 7. Get ds ready for swimming class (this has now been moved to Sunday morning 9am) take him to his swim class m, after there we do an hours travel to Tae Kwon Do, then he's there an hour, then travel back! We usually go in for a swim together.

On Sundays we usually swim with friends. I am also doing cleaning and laundry during this time as well.

Last night I played chess with ds but was really tired around 9pm, and it's then that I get all these comments.

Surely it's from doing so much? Not from being low in iron or something

You are doing a LOT, not getting too much down time and those are early starts. Can HE help with the ferrying about for activities at weekends for example?

What does he do to contribute?

My DH is like this. I say I'm tired and looks at me incredulously and asks why. I never sit down, have 2 kids and seem to need lots of sleep. He can get by on about 5 hours. No real advice as I feel stabby towards my husband. He works hard but I think sitting at a desk all day is more mentally tiring than physically.

Maybe list everything you do and get him to help more. Also make sure you have equal downtime.

Dunno. How tired are you?

How old is your son?

I think a 10:30 bed time when you are up at 6 is a little late personally. But then I like a good 8 hours in bed to get 7.5 hours sleep.

Do you enjoy any of your weekend time? Do you rest in an evening?

It is possible to be busy and low in iron. Have your energy levels changed recently?

Personally I think you are deficient in sleep and relaxation. But that might just be the levels I need.

What does he do with your son?

the question is just a bit of a boast isnt it?

when there is a possibility of a medical problem people book an appointment at the doctors to check it out.

hope that helps.

Are you constantly banging on about how tired you are? You say your DP is telling you this every day so maybe you are and you're unaware of it?

It sounds as if you just have a very busy life! It's natural to be tired in the evening when you do so much.

For comparison, when I had extremely low iron levels, I'd come home from work exhausted, eat, do any essential housework or work I'd taken home, and be in bed by 8. I didn't have an especially early start, either (6-6.30) - I assumed the tiredness was due to my job being full-on and stressful. When I eventually saw a doctor, he said he was surprised I wasn't fainting regularly!

That said, mine was a fairly extreme case and you could have a milder deficiency. It's impossible to tell for sure without the tests. It might be worth getting them done just so that if they're all fine, you can tell your DP so when he makes those comments!

@Albertschair ds is 5, I don't really enjoy much of the weekend, I feel like I'm losing myself!

Whoever said this is a boast, that's so far from the truth! I have trouble judging wether I am "normal" or in fact overly tired or stressed or anything, considering dp needs less sleep and is always wide awake!!

I will book an appointment to be checked for iron levels though, just to be sure.

@CancellyMcChequeface Thank you for the comparison there, from yours it seems I may be ok or maybe slightly low in iron!

I don't complain of tiredness, but if he's standing chatting for ages (30-45 mins non stop) then I will butt in and say I just want to sit down!