"Just get over it" [Trigger warning from MNHQ: This thread contains references to rape and sexual abuse]

[ChasingGhosts]

In conversation with a close relative yesterday. I'm struggling atm with ptsd from rape and sexual abuse from my ex partner who I've just had to relocate a long way away from to escape.

Been quite a traumatic time lots of police, injunction which he breached on Wednesday, I've been having panic attacks and getting through on diazepam but struggling to cope mentally and I keep having awful periods of either intense anxiety or feeling suicidal.

I tried to seek some support from this family member yesterday who I'm living with, asking is counselling would help. She said nhs only do 6 sessions so couldn't go deep and otherwise it's expensive so maybe I should get over it like a lot of woman have to do.

Aibu to feel upset by this comment? It seems like a difficult thing to get over it's causing me a multitude of problems in my mental health and any relationship I try.

Of course you can't 'just get over it' - would she say that if you had a broken leg. Mental health is no different to physical health in that when it's damaged you need time to mend and to recover. Unfortunately our mental health services are seriously underfunded but your case is a serious one and you should be getting the help you need. Please ignore your family member - she's deluded if she thinks women 'just get over' these things - they don't. They just hide their pain because that's what society expects them to do.

She's wrong that the NHS will only fund six sessions, and that with NHS counselling they can't "go deep". For some issues you get six, for others you get twenty, and then if your problem resurfaces you can get another twenty and so on. Your family member sounds bitter and judgemental and I'd ignore her.

(((((((((((((((())))))))))))))).
I've known brick walls to have more compassion than your family member.
As pp said. You don't just get over depression and certainly not rape
He/She sounds either very uneducated or ignorant

Thank you I didn't know they can offer more I will register with a new gp and speak to them about referral