To think I'll have to have an elective c section or labour alone?

[Mosquitoburrito]

WWYD?

This is my second child. I had an emergency c section first time and got sepsis as a result. This time I am so worried about how I am going to manage not disrupting my very attached 3 year old'sneeds and so desperate not to have abother Emergency c s that I haven't really imagined I might try and deliver naturally. However, I really am not sure about an elective particularly as, whilst it is that much more predictable regarding even baby is delivered, recovery time is not and my son as I said is very demanding of me.

The last midwife I saw told me that if I go overdue ( I did previously) I will get an emergency c section anyway as they can't induce me ( my age, previous emergency c section?). This makes me think I should book an elective.

The other depressing reason is that I have no one who can help with my son if I go into labour spontaneously, only my husband. My in laws are overseas, my parents too elderly, no other family nearby and no friends I could ask, I don't want to hire someone my son hardly knows at a time when he will be feeling disrupted. My husband says maybe I could ask my mum to support me during delivery as he will Probably have to stay with my son. I really don't think I'd want my mother there as I always worry about her and hurting her feelings some way. I feel let down that my husband seems so ready to let me cope without him. All this makes me think an elective is really my only option? AIBU?

Sad as it was ,my dh was worse than useless during my 4 children's births..in fact I didn't want him there at any of them..but I had children young and felt I couldn't say no..all Drs assume you want the child's father there.i hated it and would of been so much happier in labour with just midwifes....my advice would be have a really good think about what you want for the birth...it's one day out of your sons life,and one upsetting morning won't be the end of the world.put yourself and your baby first when it comes to birth.not the needs of son,dh,or anyone else x

I was very lucky with DC1 having a nanny to look after him and DH being around for my labour and few days after birth.

I had elective C sections for my second birth and an 'emergency' section the first time. Emergency because of a minor complication, not anything worrying. I wasn't rushed into the theatre!

If there is a mum friend you like, and has similar thoughts in birth, then I'd bet she would do almost anything to support you if you asked her.