DH unsupportive of hobby?

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I took up running earlier this year; it's really transformed my mental health and my asthma has vastly improved.

DH is sometimes supportive, for example he tells me I can beat my Parkrun PB when I doubt I can, then celebrates with me when I do. He also tells me I'm looking really toned and it's been really good for me.

But sometimes he says things like "you're overdoing it", "you went running yesterday", "I like to spend time with you".

Fair enough if I was constantly out and never with him, but I run on one weekday evening, and then do Parkrun on a Saturday morning (back by 10am).

This morning he's playing a video game, we're already having a lazy morning so there are no plans I'm disrupting. He says "but you ran yesterday". I say "yes, but I feel quite energised this morning and want to take advantage of that." He says "but we could just go for a walk later." I say "...and we still can." He says "but I also fancied a game of badminton." I say "...and we still can." Then he shrugged his shoulders which I guess was a "fine."

AIBU to not really understand what the problem is?

I think this is pretty common when one partner starts working out. The other can be resentful, and I think it often stems from guilt - because they see you making meaningful changes to be healthy, and so you've taken away any excuses they make for not doing the same.

Your DH is being an arse though. You're only running twice a week ffs, and he has no grounds to complain about it.

Though it's not twice a week, is it, if the OP is running today too? ;-)

He's still BU though.

Are you his badminton partner as well?

If not, he's wasting valuable time gaming when he could be playing games.

He's feeling uncomfortable with your new commitment. He's not sabotaging you but he's worried you're shifting away from him.

No OP YANBU at all

Happy Running

Well it sounds like more than twice a week if there are consecutive days, so maybe have a think ane recognise how much time you're devoting too it. (Not saying its bad in anyway, but its easy to underestimate).

Having said that, unless you're upsetting plans that have been made previously then YANBU. SOunds like your partner is either (a) assuming rather than making plabs with you or (b) missing out on some quality time with you.

A quick conversation and/ or some pre-warning or stickinf to a routine for your running sessions should sort it all out

He's happy for you to do your hobby when it suits him.

It wasn't like he was jumping up saying "let's go for a walk/play badminton, now, together instead".

He wants to continue his lazy morning, and for you not to go running while he does so, - and that's not on.

giant why should she have a 'routine' for running?? Does he have one for gaming??

You take the chance....go when you can.....work it round eating,the weather....

Yanbu , as others said its a guilt thing, I had a few drinks last night,slept until 10 jumped out of bed and am now energetically cleaning the House , to be met by "oh I was gonna do that after watching this (BB)" and happens in reverse all the time when all I wanna do is slump on the sofa but feel bad because dp is cleaning or others such things. Something to just ignore. Your not interfering with his plans to play games.