To confront my evil neighbour

[dimondjedi9]

A bit of background the person in question is very aggressive and has rows with most of the people in my street and has caused no end of trouble.
Today there was an altercation between two children, I was witness to the whole incident, anyway after the altercation she went and spoke to the sibling of one of the children involved and told him that my child was involved, he was nowhere near and if he had of been involved then there would have been severe consequences, we won't tolerate such behaviour.
As a result of her lies my child got attacked, should I go and confront her because I saw the whole thing? Who does that to a child?
We have never fallen out with her but she has got something against us, we keep ourselves to ourselves and do not get involved in any of the drama here, my partner is convinced that because we don't get involved and never argue with anyone is the reason she sees us as easy prey.
Since she has lived here she has caused no end of trouble, has no control over her children and doesn't care what they do, she thinks nothing of screaming and effing and blinding so the whole road can here.
She is rude, aggressive and bulshey, but I am really upset for my child as this is only the beginning of the holidays. I really don't know what to do, I know that she will be verbally aggressive towards me because that is her way but I want to know why she would lie like that, other neighbours have also told me that she has been spreading lies about us but the ones we are friendly with know that we are not like that.
It is like being back in school again, she is your typical bully. Everyone tries to avoid her but she stops them and initiates a conversation, she likes to pit us all against each other and last year actually attacked one of my neighbours, she really is the neighbour from hell! Please advise x

Hope your DD/DS was not seriously hurt

I would be more concerned with the person who attacked your child.
What has happened to the perpetrator?

Keep an incident diary and ask the police about getting an ASBO.

When you say attacked, do you mean physically or verbally? If it was physically, I'd call the police, and make them aware that it was a direct result of the evil neighbour and that you want her dealt with as well as the attack perpetrator.

Agree with emmyrose

Who attacked your kid? How old are they both?

That's awful behaviour from an adult. I hope your DC is ok. Personally I would speak to the attackers mother first. She probably knows your neighbour has form for this. I would then definitely approach the neighbour in public if possible. If she verbally abuses you hold your head high, even bulls run out of air. If she assaults you, call the police. I would log a compliant with the police so far. How dare she cause this trouble.

I can't see the point of confronting am aggressive idiot like her. What I'll do is have a great party for your child, make sure she knows about it, and not invite hers.

Thank you for the advice, my partner has spoken to the attackers mum, he and my son are year 6. She was very nice about it and said that she doesn't listen to gossip and like us shy away from confrontation, the boys have shook hands and hopefully that will be the end of the drama for the holidays.
What to do about the neighbour now? I hate confrontation, we are peaceful people, I dare say someone else will be in the firing line now this has been resolved. I'd love to know what her problem is with us I could understand it if we had been involved in an altercation with her! I'm still reeling but my partner thinks that the best thing to do is ignore her because at the end of the day you can't row with yourself! Thank you to everyone that took the time to offer advice, fingers crossed this will be the end of it all.

Now it's resolved with the attacker and his mum, absolutely have nothing to do with BullyBitch. She loves the drama and negativity- why bring that into your life.

The neighbours know she is a shit-stirrer, and like you said the other mum knows what happened. So leave it. You will never win with that kind of bitch so it's just not worth it. You are attributing to her the kind of emotional intelligence that you have, and she does not have it. What you want is for her to say "oh goodness, I'm so sorry, listen I totally got it wrong how can I ever apologise?" It won't happen. Another outcome which could happen (beyond her continuing to bully and harass) is that she might "make up" with you just to use you for something else "oh dimond can you come over and help sort out next door neighbour? You're like me, you can't stand things that are unfair..." etc etc. She will try and hook you in and then control you.

Keep. Away.