DH driving no hands to eat slushy

[SeamusMacDubh]

That's basically it: AIBU to tell my H that I don't want him to take BOTH his hands off the wheel when driving, in any circumstances, but in this case to eat the remnants of his slushy with the stroon/spaw (whatever a straw with a spoony bit on the end is called).

This is how it went down:
DH took both hands off wheel to scoop slushy remnants.
I put my hand on the wheel and asked him not to and took the slushy to hold for him.
He took both hands off the wheel to demonstrate that he didn't need to hold it.
I told him to stop being so irresponsible with our two DC in the back of the car - anything could happen in a split second.
He continued driving for 5 minutes, slushy melted, I passed it back for him to drink.
'D'H took his hands off the wheel again to scoop up slush.
I made him pull over (he didn't want to) so that I could drive.

AIBU to think he was being/is a total knobhead and completely irresponsible and doesn't respect me?

Knobhead. Agreed.

Knobhead - seconded.

He could kill or seriously injure either his own family or someone else's loved ones.

Absolute knobhead. Risking a serious accident for a slushy. Dick.

YANBU

What a total dick.

What?!? Were you crawling through traffic? Not that that's an excuse but how else does a normal sane person think it's alright to drive with their hands off the wheel? Maybe I move 2m forward in a traffic jam and don't need to steer, but anything else is bonkers.

^ That's not to say I DO drive 2m in a jam with my hands off the wheel, BTW.

You are apparently married to a small child.

I know two people who had serious crashes from taking their hands off the wheel/losing attention for a split second.

One died (passengers fortunately all survived to tell the tale). The other was fortunate to survive unharmed. Car was totalled, turned upside down and every window was smashed.

Both were single car accidents, thank God.

He's a loser.

When you swapped seats did you drive off and leave him as that would have been perfectly reasonable.

He's a complete fucking knobhead, and you can tell him I said so. What kind of fucking moron risks his children's lives to eat a slushy?

You can tell him the newspaper articles about his fatal crash will make interesting reading.

YANBU. I am pretty sure he is breaking the law!

If the police saw him, he would get pulled over for careless driving.

As per PP I think there is something called 'driving without due care and attention' and I am pretty sure taking hands off the wheel falls under that.

He can kill himself if he's an idiot and wants to do so but he should not endanger you, the kids, and other road users.

As someone who has in this last week had to deal with the remains of several people killed in car accidents, I would love to chat to him about it and maybe he'd think twice before doing something so stupid, selfish and irresponsible. I hope if he does it again that he gets caught by the police and banned.

Ask him how he'd feel if something happened while his hands were off the wheel, such as a blowout, and because he wasn't holding the steering wheel the car crashed and his family were badly injured or killed. Don't let him claim that "nothing's going to happen" because it does. I've seen 5 serious car accidents in my life and I wonder how many of those people thought it wouldn't happen to them.

FFS - how unbelievably stupid and childish of him!!

Having suffered two high-speed tyre blow outs in recent years, I know how quickly everything can change when driving and how important it is to have proper control - on both occasions I was lucky I was able to bring the car to a safe stop.
Had something like that happened while your DH had both hands off the wheel then you'd likely be upside down in a field right now.

Maid, not crawling at all, about 50mph. I am reminded every day why I am unhappy with my choice of husband.

Northern, that thought did cross my mind, he didn't get in straight away and I thought he might have stormed off but he was just busy showing off/having a tantrum and throwing the rest of his slushy on the floor

Both my parents have been/are police officers and have both attended horrendous accidents, tales of which they have recounted to my siblings and I to really make us understand how dangerous driving and being on the roads can be. My DF has also had a near fatal accident which I am never going to forget. H knows all of this but has the attitude that he's "a good driver" "it won't happen to me", "were on a straight road, there's loads of space around us"

I couldn't care less what happens to the idiots who do things like this, but I do care about the innocent drivers and passengers who are killed and injured because of their idiocy.
People who do what your husband did and people who are similarly reckless and drive without due care and attention should be banned from driving.
I was going to say they should also be made to watch films of the consequences of stupidity like theirs, but I doubt they'd care at all. They're too selfish and stupid, so just ensure they never drive again.
I don't drive, but my husband and daughter do, and they're both excellent drivers, but hearing about people such as the OP's husband is why I worry about their safety when I know they're on the road.