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To expect more help from DH with our children

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junebaby85 · 05/08/2017 18:56

I brought my two children out on my own today as my husband was at a golf thing for his mums partner and it was only men invited. My plan was go do some shopping then food out somewhere as a treat. I have a friends babies baptism tomorrow afternoon to which we are all invited so dh said he should be back at 6 to give me a chance to do my tan and nails in peace . My son has done nothing but act up since I left the house this morning. He has kicked and punched me and spat in my face. I literally dragged him home and he nearly toppled over my baby in a tantrum. I rang DH and told him how ds was acting up and I still needed to pick up a pressie and card for the baby before the shops close. DH told me he was going for food and to drop DS there and I can finish what I need to do. I rang him and told him I was nearly there and he goes oh just go straight home il be home in half an hour and you can go back out again. I rang him a few minutes ago as he's still not home and he goes oh I'm only eating now il be back in an hour or so. I told him I was going back to the restaurant to drop ds there and he can take him for a while. DH went mental at me and told me I obviously can't handle two children and we shouldn't have any more even though we planned to have one more next year. He also had a go about how he never goes out ect. He's going out tomorrow night aswell plus he had 3 nights out running and playing golf this week (5 nights in total) too leaving me alone to do bedtime too. I'm feeling like a rubbish parent who always has to be the discipliner.

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GodIsDead · 05/08/2017 20:58

Your DH sounds like a selfish twat. Does this happen a lot?

Pengggwn · 05/08/2017 21:29

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junebaby85 · 05/08/2017 22:01

Not often and to be honest I don't mind him being out and doing stuff as he generally checks to see if I ve anything on. This week I've had it really bad and I'm not sure if my son is acting up because he's jealous but he's been really hard work all week and I feel like I've no support. I was telling my mum about his behaviour and instead of supporting me she kept saying he wouldn't do that he's nanas best boy. I have embraced having two children and I was feeling proud of how well I adapted and got a routine going as I was always worried I'd fail and the house would fall apart so for DH to tell me he didn't think I'd cope with 3 after one wobble was a kick in the teeth.

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Fruitcorner123 · 06/08/2017 00:21

sounds like he knew what to say to upset you. He knows how to push your buttons.

You haven't described a very nice man. How old is your son?

missiondecision · 06/08/2017 00:28

Yabu somewhat. Becaise it's abit much to drop off a child whilst your dh is out with friends. Unless he goes out a lot, whole other story about his priorities in that case.
He should have been home as agreed.

wobblywonderwoman · 06/08/2017 00:29

Can you get away by yourself for a couple of nights. Dh is a very selfish man

Fruitcorner123 · 06/08/2017 00:38

missiondecision how is 5 nights out this week not a lot? This couple have a baby and a difficult older child together.

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