Aibu to be pissed off over taking a picture?

[Evilstepmum01]

Not quite a parking thread, sorry! Just back from local supermarket. As we pull in to park, I see a kids jeep strapped to the top of the car next to us. Recognise the kids jeep from my work and am amused to see it tied precariously on the cars roof.
Take a cheeky pic to share with my colleagues as I find it amusing.
Get kids out to be confronted by some daft woman wittering about how her kids don't want to be photographed and I must delete that or she'll call the police.
Begin to say her windows are so dark I can't see inside her car and I took a picture of the roof. Realise she's not listening and is getting herself puffed up for drama, figure you can't argue with stupid and mutter 'whatever'.
Got kids out, deleted pic cos it'll be on our dashcam anyway and walk away. She is on phone to police all excited, the guy next to us is cracking up laughing.
So, bearing in mind I was in a public place, I couldn't see anything in her thick black tints and if she called the police, they'd likely warn her about the Jeep on the roof as it looked unsafe....was i bu?

Hmm I don't know really. I think I'd find it odd if a stranger was snapping away at my car, kids or no kids.

You didn't mean any harm by it, but I probably wouldn't have taken a photo, at least not in broad daylight in a public place.

But in a public place, you can take what photos you want - you can't use them for profit without anyone that's identifiable in them's agreement (this clearly doesn't cover press photographers but is the standard expected of amateur photographers)

police won't come out to deal with a woman who took a picture of a car parked in a public place, then deleted it when requested

You weren't breaking the law.

However if i thought you were taking an unsolicited photo of my child I would go nuts.

I find intrusions or potential I intrusions into my or my child's privacy very very unsettling indeed.

Ask first. That's kind and polite. Don't assume.

Fair play, didn't see any kids though. I wouldn't have taken it had I seen kids. Seriously thick tints!
I couldn't see her, cos I was taking a pic of the roof!

I think that, technically, you weren't being unreasonable as you were in a public place and weren't taking photos of her or her children.

Having said that, I would have been really annoyed with you too. (although obviously not to the extent of screeching at you or calling the police; they obviously have far more important things to do). I think it's become the norm for people to whip their phones out and start taking photos or filming all sorts of things. I find it incredibly intrusive and miss the days when you could just go about your business without hearing camera clicks and wondering whether you were going to find yourself on 'Spotted in Your Town' or 'Parking Like a Twat' or being able to get to the spring onions without someone taking a selfie. Maybe it's an age thing (I'm mid forties) but I do make massive judgements about people who constantly take photos of things that wouldn't even warrant a conversation.

In this case I think you were being unreasonable.

I think YABU, although you were not breaking the law, what was a laugh for you could have caused her serious anxiety...maybe her children are adopted (like mine) or the have fled DV or any other reason for not wanting to be photographed. You knew you were taking a picture of the car on the roof but she clearly didn't.

Not necessarily to do with the kids, if you're clearly taking photos of people/their cars/whatever for the purpose of laughing at them, you're running the risk that they'll notice, be pissed off and confront you. You want to live by the sword, you've got to die by the sword

It's perfectly legal to photograph anyone in a public place.

You took a picture in order to have a laugh at her expense.

Whilst it's legal to do so, its not very nice, so I think ywbu really.

Perfectly fine. You can take a photo of what you like in a public place. She was being totally unreasonable. No need for you to delete.

My DDs are adopted too, so I would be very wary if I thought a stranger had taken a pic of them that I had no control over. I do post photos of them myself on Facebook, but I'm careful of my privacy settings.

So yes, you were being unreasonable, though I take your point about the windows being tinted. But why take the photo anyway?

So why did she have the jeep from your work on top of her car? Maybe she was really pissed off because you caught her red handed!

She knew you were going to report her. .
And for her illegally tinted windows also. .

More evidence of mindless obsession with sharing things on social media. Yawn.

Yanbu!

It's a bit weird to be taking random photos of other people's cars. I wouldn't like this at all. Just don't do it.

To be fair I wasn't laughing at her expense. It's not often you see a kids jeep of top of a car, it attracted a bit of attention!
No way was i going to share it on social media, just knew my colleagues would be amused!
They bought the Jeep, that's why it was on the car!!

It's not illegal to take photos in a public place. The owner of the carpark could tell you to stop, no-one else can, not even the mother of the kids in the car.

By the way, nobody has the right to demand you delete photos you have taken. Not random people, not security guards, and not even police. If taking the photo was legal then there's obviously no reason to delete it, and if taking the photo was illegal then it's evidence of illegality and therefore shouldn't be deleted.

Well, you had the right to do it as it was a public place, but I confess I'd find it a bit creepy if you took a photo of my car with my kids in it when I wasn't doing anything wrong.

Not illegal, but a bit odd. I'd at least have waited until she had gone before taking it.