Husband moans and whinges about stress - AIBU

[demurelyblue]

Just to be completely clear this isn't about money. Due to inheritances we are fairly comfortable.

'D'H is stressed. And it is showing. He is on sleeping tablets, he is irritable, shouty and mean. He blames work for this.

Now I sympathise but he keeps taking extra shifts! He was not meant to work this weekend but he is and I am a bit peeved as I have disappointed kids. If I try to talk to him he 'blames' me or the children for needing the money but we really don't need it in any way shape or form.

I can see why he is exhausted but AIBU in thinking he has to say no!

That sounds like an abusive marriage to me. I'm a SAHM but it was a joint decision. No partner should ever stop you working if that's what you want.

In my long experiences and various marriages men only behave like this when they either have something to hide.
You will need to winkle whatever it is out of him, it may not be anything serious it could be that he is unable to stand up to his boss but whatever it is he needs to discuss it with you and soon.