Is it just me or am I just a massive stress head??????

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I literally cannot cope with anything outside of what I expect to happen or what I need to happen at a given time.

I don't cope well with a change of plans, I become extremely stressed if I am
not in control of things - just in general - and I simply cannot contain myself. Gritting my teeth and smiling through it just can't happen I just get more and more worked up until I burst with anger.

I don't want to be like this and sometimes I'm laid back but when I'm in this kind of mood there is no turning back - help me 😂😂

Have you always felt like this? If so, perhaps some counselling would help. If it's a recent development, maybe it is related to hormones and your gp might be able to advise you. It sounds like you are unhappy, and need to change some aspect of your life. I can't really offer any more advice that that, sorry.

CBT might help a lot - my partner had similar to you and it has destressed him a lot by being able to access 'coping mechanisms.'

Came on to say CBT too

I used to be like this and still am to an extent, I've learnt to manage it better.
Not suggesting this is what you have, but I have Asperger's syndrome and this is a common trait.
Agree counselling would help.

Thanks guys will investigate x

I had chaotic upbringing. Nothing ever went as planned or as my parents said it would. There were lots of arguments, threats from them both to leave etc.

It was a really insecure childhood. I hate when things dont go as planned now. I get anxious and stressed and angry.

I had some counselling and realised i still feel my life isnt secure or that I am one step away from secure. I am one step away from being shit scared again. Thats where the anger and stress comes from.

Counselling did help. But my hobby helped more. Its a bit scary and embracing the fear as helped me deal with how i deal with fear in other times. Sounds daft, but it worked.

Also if i am getting to not coping point, removing myself for the situation and taking a few minutes to myself helps.

I'm like this, and it's getting worse as I get older.
I even shut down a bit when my DH says something unexpected, gives an answer I wasn't predicting - it's like my brain short-circuits for a little while. Leads to arguments.
I think I'm on the austistic spectrum. Seems to be a "thing".
I also hate having to go back on myself if we are out walking

sparticus I was told the same at CBT. While I'm not really any better, and my immediate reaction is always my mind racing, re-organising, extrapolating the new plan out to the Nth degree, just why this is my reaction helps me minimise it and just think 'ok green, this is just what you do, get it over and done with and move on '. I definitely recommend CBT, op.

try some mindfulness techniques.sounds all bhudda like to some when you mention it but its aazing
look up body scan or mindfulness videos on youtbue.brilliant little techniqes to just stop and relax and be for a minute.stopping that flight or fight mode.it allows u to ust be in the moment.helps control those stories or panic or thing syou tell yourself when something stressors you or change happens.just letting it sit with you.no reacting.
STOP
S- STOP- stop what your doing and the reaction and sit
T- TAKE a breathe and feel it in and out in and out.deeeep breathes
O OBSERVE whats really going on around you.are you ok.are your thoughts or panics or stress fact or thoughts.are you ok.observe sounds sights etc.observe your thoughts and feelings and allow them to just be there.thoughts will change/pass.emotions what are they where do they cause reaction in your body.allow them to come and go.
P- PROCEED and continue with what yu may need right now.be kind to yourself.
keep tyring this and let it get into your head how to just breathe and stop before the stress kicks inxx
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I had similar issues to you and CBT was amazing in helping me to cope. I know it is not for everyone, but it made a huge difference to my day to day life.

I could have written that opening post OP. That's me all over.

I can hide it day to day with the job though, but once home I can't hide it any longer.

There is ASD in the family and I do strongly suspect I have AS.

I just try and cope the best I can.

Thanks all. I've been on medication for anxiety before but I never felt it really managed it. More the placebo effect I'm sure!
It's directed at certain things and people mostly but sometimes I just struggle in general. Maybe CBT is worth a go - I've had some counselling before but not to with this.

My head so feels so full of anger and frustration all the time it's exhausting