SIL Wedding WWYD

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More of a WWYD rather than AIBU.

I'm 28 weeks pregnant with my first baby and DSil is getting married 4 days before my due date. Obviously I know there's a very high likelihood I won't make the wedding, but I'm working on the chance I can make it. Wedding is in central London and is about an hour (give or take traffic) drive from home. DH and I would be booking a car to take us there so we don't have to worry about driving/parking/public transport on the day. Getting home is currently more of a discussion.

Option 1 is to book a return journey when the wedding finishes at 11.30 (or just after) and come home that night.

Option 2 is to book a hotel room nearby and either car or public transport home the next day.

Although a car is much less flexible than a taxi, its considerably more affordable and more comfortable.

I'm in favour of option number 2 because I'm worried it's going to be a long day and if I'm 9 months pregnant and knackered I can jump in a taxi and go to the hotel if I need to leave early. I also don't have to drag DH away from his sister's wedding just because I'm tired.

He's concerned about me being on my own for the journey and in a hotel room (although I'm not really sure why, I can call him if I need him and I won't be far). He also thinks that I'll be more comfortable at home than in a hotel and we are closer to hospital if I was to go into labour the next day. If we book a car, there's no option of leaving early and the venue doesn't have a quiet separate room I can sit down and be antisocial in, although there will still be seating in the main party room.

Either way, the hospital bag and my notes will be coming to the wedding and there are hospitals near by if we don't have time to get home. WWYD in my situation?

I went to DS's wedding at 39 weeks exactly. It was an hour and a half away from my hospital.

We got at room upstairs at the venue, and DP didn't drink at all in case we did have to drive to the hospital. In the end all was well, and she was well on her honeymoon when I went into labour.

I'm glad I got the room though. Even though I sailed through the pregnancy and even at the very end didn't feel exhausted or massive I did take a power nap after the dinner and that enabled me to stay up until 2am. We still thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and DP didn't miss the drinking at all, to his surprise.

I'd say option 2 -easier to stay over than travel home and as you say DH can stay later than you if he likes. Presume the wedding's not at a hotel.

I wouldn't worry too much about being close to the hospital, should you suddenly go into labour you should still have plenty of time to get to hospital!
I'd go for the hotel if I were you.
Good luck for it all!

I'd get the hotel as chances are you will want to come away from the wedding early and if that means your DH will too you'll find yourself holding off leaving when all you want to do is have a lie down.
I would take a car tho as if you do start having contractions realistically you'll want to give birth at the closest hospital to your home so that it's easier for your DH to come back and forth if you're in a couple of days and for when you bring baby home. there should be plenty of time for you to get home/to your hospital unless it progresses quickly.

Stay in a hotel then you can leave when you want

Thanks everyone

@Linda i was hoping to not have to leave the wedding, I'm assuming I'll be needed for photos and stuff and once I'm asleep I'll be grumpy for the rest of the night! I lile the flexibility of knowing I can leave when I want to though.

@user there's no real possibility of taking the car, it just doesn't work out. If we absolutely have to get back then we'll get a taxi home, its not ideal but not really got a choice on that part.

If you favour option 2, go for option 2. You are the one who will be 9 months pregnant.

@ella I wish it was that easy to convince DH!

Option 1 and I say that as a very heavily pregnant woman.
I think I'd power through in favour of my own bed, home comforts and being closer to the hospital.
When pregnant with my DS I stayed out at about 38 weeks and didn't get a wine of sleep as opposed to the massive 4-5 hours I could manage at home.