To think DH should listen to fire risk concerns?

[MissCommunication]

DH is sleeping in another room at present as baby waking up a lot and no point in us both being broken and knackered. The last few mornings I've been in and his phone has been charging in his bed. There's a lot of stuff out there about fire risk and leaving phones etc charging in bed or on soft furnishings. DH has disregarded my request to stop charging his phone in bed and I am worried about it. He leaves his laptop plugged in and charging on the sofa and it gets so hot...I've mentioned that to him too and no change.

For context I've posted on here about his speeding with me and two DC in the car (130 mph with DS in front seat).

Does he not give a shit?

That's ridiculous, he's being completely unreasonable.

At the very least he'll damage his laptop by using it on the sofa like that.

I remember the thread about him speeding. He just doesn't give a shit at all.

Unplug charging devices left in bed or on the sofa whenever you see them, and don't get in a car with him again.

Well, you've had an out loud gasp from me about the speeding.

He's a complete idiot regarding the charging of computers etc but a criminal in terms of the driving.

What did you do about that?

Who on earth drives that fast with their DC in the car? Not that anyone should be driving that fast anyway, regardless of passengers.

Is he always so dismissive of your concerns?

My DH is the same with phone charging - I've mentioned fire risks to him plenty of times and only got eye rolling and a condescending look in return.

The driving at 130 mph though....! WTAF??? That is CRAZY!!! If he had a crash at that speed your children would be obliterated. And your DH wouldn't have a chance to regret or contemplate what a moron he has been as he too would be very very dead. Not to mention the sheer arse-holeness towards the safety of other drivers. My God. If my DH did this (and he wouldn't) I would seriously consider telling the police. How dare he risk your children's lives in that cavelier manner? What an absolute man-child to the n'th degree!!

The speeding was in Germany but I think that's irrelevant really. I haven't broached the subject as we haven't really had to go anywhere in the car together much but I will have to say either he sticks to speed limit or I drive/we go separately. He moans about my driving...sat in the back once and told me I was erratic and was making him fart! I drive pretty smoothly and normally by the way. My very blunt sister would tell me in no uncertain terms I was shit if that were the case!

I could write a bit of an essay...at the risk of being cryptic I'm logging everything if nothing else for my sanity and memory!

Speeding, well wasn't speeding if it was on an autobahn.

As for charging, chargers do get hit, and there is a risk of fire but I expect that there are bigger risks in the house

well wasn't speeding if it was on an autobahn

Only around half of Autobahnen in Germany have no speed limit, and even if they have no mandatory speed limit, there's an advisory limit of 130 km/h (80 mph).

The speeding was in Germany but I think that's irrelevant really.

It is irrelevant. The reason that around half of Autobahnen in Germany have no speed limit is because German drivers are in general more careful. Driving dangerously or carelessly is punished much more severely than it is in the UK.

your DH is an idiot

YANBU

why does your DH not care about his family's safety (your concerns are objectively valid, backed up by well known risks around fire safety)? And even if they were in a grey area around being valid, why does he not care about your concerns?

Is your DH normally this irresponsible and/or uncaring?

You should show him this thread.