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Original poster

AIBU to be annoyed???

148 replies

Ilovejonahhill · 04/08/2017 09:17

AIBU??

My DS 6 months has just been diagnosed with a milk allergy, I BF but avoid milk in my diet. As I have started weaning I have requested a tin of special formula via my GP (to add to cereal, cooking etc).

He asked me the name, then how to spell it, then said 'oh be careful with that it's £30 a tub'. I did point out to him if I didn't BF he would be requiring a tub every 3 days so am in fact saving them money!!

Should I be annoyed? Just to add I am in health profession & would never tell patients 'this has cost x amount etc'.

He's a baby, he has an allergy, he needs it!

It's bugging me so would like others views on it Wink

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Cruciatus · 04/08/2017 14:04

Why should she pay for it herself

In most other countries you would have to pay for this yourself. The fact that you are annoyed when the expensive cost is flagged to you says you do not want to be bothered with knowing the expense, but why shouldn't you? It is your health system, in part your responsibility. The British sense of entitlement to your wonderful services is shocking to an outsider.

multivac · 04/08/2017 14:05

Baby allergic to milk, can't/don't wish to breast feed, low income/can't afford the formula??? How do you suggest people just get on with it???

Have you looked at the news lately? They struggle. They go without themselves. They use food banks. They get abused by the media. It's happening.

Original poster
Ilovejonahhill · 04/08/2017 14:05

I've no idea, you tell me.

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lemony7 · 04/08/2017 14:06

I'm constantly being told how much my meds are. I was on injections at £600 each at one point. Nothing to be annoyed at!

abigcupoffuckyou · 04/08/2017 14:06

Oh dear lord, it's actually painful. You are convinced people could never manage without your free bloody formula yet most people actually do.

Blinkered AND entitled.

Original poster
Ilovejonahhill · 04/08/2017 14:10

Not blinkered or entitled. Actually interested to hear how, if a formula for CMPA will not be prescribed how do people manage? If they don't BF or baby is too young for alternative milk?

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Original poster
Ilovejonahhill · 04/08/2017 14:10

Oops forgot my winks Wink

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multivac · 04/08/2017 14:11

They barely fucking do, OP. HTH.

midnightmisssuki · 04/08/2017 14:18

i think he was just telling you how much it costs BECAUSE it costs so much. Normal stuff like paracetamol and run of the mill drugs won't cost nearly as much so theres no need to tell the patients how much it costs. Your milk costs 30 pounds - that is a lot of money and maybe the Dr was just trying to ensure you were aware in case you dropped it/didnt use it etc. The NHS (as you know) is severely lacking in funds - the Dr was right to let you know. I think any medication over 20 pounds should be mentioned so people are aware.

I think you have come across as a little bit entitled in this thread unfortunately, you do realise that people in other countries without the brilliant NHS would have to pay for this milk themselves?

So - sorry, OP, but YABU to be annoyed.

randomsabreuse · 04/08/2017 14:21

I did dairy (and egg) free for am a year with my intolerant DD. She also reacted to soya. Ended up mixed feeding from 8 months as DH got cancer and I just couldn't express enough. DD was also just off dropping her 2nd centile line.

Interestingly she loved neutramigan, accepted the cow and gate but reacted to that. Now can tolerate filtered milks but not normal full fat.

Still reacts to egg though - but I gave up bf when she decided sitting on my head was more interested...

Original poster
Ilovejonahhill · 04/08/2017 14:21

Im definitely not entitled, & obviously didn't want it to come across that way. I work with people whose treatment/care cost hundreds/thousands & cost is never mentioned to them?? Even people with self inflicted injuries/illnesses??

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Spuddington · 04/08/2017 14:21

I ate very little except instant noodles so I could buy Neocate once it was no longer prescribed here.

Does that answer your fucking question?

Spuddington · 04/08/2017 14:22

I hope you don't work in mental health services OP.

Sienna9522 · 04/08/2017 14:24

I think it depends on circumstances. I'm always amazed at the cost of medications even though I regularly order them for my ward. It's something I discuss with colleagues but would never dream of telling the patients, as it's hard enough to get some of them to take their meds in the first place. I am however very careful in ensuring that medications aren't over ordered and making sure the consultants complete regular medication reviews. I'm a bit of a nag but I think it's all of our responsibility to try and prevent waste!

I can see the point of your GP, I've been known to waste formula that I've paid for myself. If my DD had an allergy and she required the special formula you talk of, if I was aware of the price I would definitely be more mindful of waste. I don't think it's a personal attack on you, it's just that it's a big problem in the NHS right now! I personally would like to know the cost of my prescriptions.

Original poster
Ilovejonahhill · 04/08/2017 14:24

I'm sorry you had to buy neocate, does the fact I get 'free formula' bother you??

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Spuddington · 04/08/2017 14:25

No, I'm bothered by your attitude to the many, many replies on this thread.

abigcupoffuckyou · 04/08/2017 14:26

I'm sorry you had to buy neocate, does the fact I get 'free formula' bother you??

I think its more the fact that you get it free and yet are still whining that bothers people.

abigcupoffuckyou · 04/08/2017 14:26

I work with people whose treatment/care cost hundreds/thousands & cost is never mentioned to them??

And you can't see how that could possibly be different in anyway from fucking FORMULA?

randomsabreuse · 04/08/2017 14:30

So emphasising the cost of the special formula means people would be more likely to take risks when baby decides actually not hungry despite fussing and leave the just 1 ounce eaten bottle for several hours rather than one. Baby gets ill costing more money not less.

Given most babies don't like the stuff parents don't go down the special formula route for fun!

Original poster
Ilovejonahhill · 04/08/2017 14:31

My attitude yikes Confused i asked if it was common practice & said I found it patronising to be careful with it! How am I not going to be careful with it if I'm just cooking with the stuff??

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Bonez · 04/08/2017 14:35

Almond milk? Coconut Milk?

Original poster
Ilovejonahhill · 04/08/2017 14:37

That's exactly my point 'we wouldn't dream of telling patients'!!

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abigcupoffuckyou · 04/08/2017 14:40

How am I not going to be careful with it if I'm just cooking with the stuff??

How does the dr know if you're going to cook with it or snort it or throw it in the bin?

I think you're messing, no-one is that entitled.

Sienna9522 · 04/08/2017 14:41

The patients are mentally ill, compliance with medication is extremely important in a lot of cases! I wouldn't want to say anything to make the patients think otherwise! How on earth does that compare to being told the price of the formula? You are ridiculous OP and can't have read my post properly!

Sirzy · 04/08/2017 14:41

Ds has to wear a Lycra suit. I was told each one cost the NHS over £700. It didn't cross my mind to think to be angry At being told. Nor was I "patronised" when they confirmed the washing instructions with me!

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