What would you do?

[WhatTheChickens]

Posting for traffic and a general consensus

I'm on tinder. Was swiping the other day and came across someone I know (don't know them well anymore, went to school with them, friends on facebook)

He's married, with a child and his wife is expecting another baby.
Her facebook looks all loved up, family pics etc, his - not so much, pics of their child but not many of him with his wife.

I know the general advice is to keep out of these things but it just seems so awful! The poor woman. Can't stop thinking about it and how I would feel if I was in her situation.
I've taken a screen shot of his profile, do I let him know I've seen it, in the hope he does the right thing? Maybe anonymously?

Or keep well out?

You barely know them. It's absolutely none of your business.

Sadly not that uncommon. A single friend of mine who uses tinder was shocked at how many married friends and acquaintances showed up on her tinder. So many of them with kids or pregnant wives etc. Sometimes they'd then embarrassedly bring it up with her with various excuses of supposedly an old profile (errr your marriage is older than tinder), or being on it for curiousity or to make friends etc etc. But I'd stay well out of it. Being on tinder isn't proof of infidelity, might just be a little fantasy the guy is playing with, and unless the wife is a good friend she won't thank you for it I think!

If I was her, I'd want to know. Nothing worse than being the only one not to onow the truth about your own marriage - if you've seen it, you can bet other 0eople who know them have also seen it.
Someone has to be brave and give this woman the heads up. I would send the screenshot. It's fine to do it anonymously because it's true that people shoot the messenger, but I believe that telling her is the right thing to do.

Unfortunately, it's common.

Not your place to say though. Whilst some people would want to know, to others it's a case of ignorance is bliss, if you don't know the person well you don't know which camp they fall in to. Guarantee one of the wife's friends will come across him themselves at some point and they'll be in a closer position to know how to handle it.

She might already know. she might even have her own profile. Tinder is where a lot of threesome etc arrangements are arranged.

Doesn't sound like you have any loyalties to either of them so I definitely wouldn't get involved regardless of how good your intentions are.

No, I don't have any loyalties to either of them, you're right.

Just wish i'd never bloody seen it!