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to not understand why people want to share their viruses?!

19 replies

Kimberly343 · 04/08/2017 07:52

Yes I may be being unreasonable, and probably a bit precious.
I have two DCs, one is a baby, one a toddler. We are due to go away tommorow, of which we are driving to and have saved up a long time for!

We went to a family dinner at the weekend at my grandparents, and a relative brought her DS along, aged 15 full of cold and a cough. He basically just lied on GPs sofa all afternoon complaining, the relative only said, don't let the DCs get too close to DS he is full of cold.

Well suprise suprise we are now all full of cold, I feel horrendous and ache all over, baby has been up solidly the last few nights coughing heavily and is now on anti-biotics to help clear it as it looks like it has turned into a chest infection. My toddler has begun complaining of aches and has a runny nose.

Although yes we will still enjoy the holiday I would obviously prefer us all to go well and enjoy to the max. I understand we can't sit at home constantly with a cold, and lives go on but is it necessary to go around spreading it? Her DS has been left alone many a time and could have easily stayed at home infront of the TV rather than spread it around.

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MrsOverTheRoad · 04/08/2017 07:58

Utterly weird of them! They could have left a 15 year old at home!

CigarsofthePharoahs · 04/08/2017 07:59

At age 15, yes he should have stayed at home. Sounds like he probably didn't enjoy it anyway!
The thing is, that whilst some people might just get a grotty cold, for others it could be much worse.
I had one winter where I caught a run of colds which got progressively worse and I ended up back on steroids to control my suddenly severe athsma, having not needed them since childhood!
Ever since then I seem to get more colds that end up settling on my chest than I ever used to.
I appreciate that sometimes it can't be helped, there are times when you just plain have to be out and about. However there are times when you don't, like the situation the op describes. In which case, stay home and keep your germs to yourself!

MummyMuppet2x2 · 04/08/2017 08:00

Inexcusable!
YANBU

Sirzy · 04/08/2017 08:00

I don't understand why they didn't leave him at home for his own comfort more than anything.

That said if you are planning on travelling and therefore also spreading the virus you only have limited scope to complain!

Treesinbloom · 04/08/2017 08:03

That said if you are planning on travelling and therefore also spreading the virus you only have limited scope to complain!

^ This

Although YANBU for the 15 year old should have stayed at home

Kimberly343 · 04/08/2017 08:12

Yes I agree we are also possibly going to spread this virus, but our insurance wouldn't cover us cancelling on account of us having colds, and we saved for this holiday all year. We are travelling in our own car so not going to spread through an air travel.

Attending a family dinner is completely avoidable, so a little different

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Migraleve · 04/08/2017 08:32

Sorry OP but one rule for you and one for everybody else?

It's either shit to go out and about and risk people catching a cold or it's not Hmm

Nousernameforme · 04/08/2017 08:46

Cold turned chest infection in 4 days, that sounds pretty fast. Are you sure that's all it is?

caffeinestream · 04/08/2017 08:50

Why are you planning on travelling with a chest infection?

Kimberly343 · 04/08/2017 08:55

The baby has a medical condition that affects the lungs, increasing the chance of a cold or cough turning bacterial fast. We have seen regular consultant regarding this and the holiday and they are not contagious after 48hr anti-biotics which they will be when we travel.

It isn't one rule for me, I appreciate it isn't possible to stay home everytime you have a cold but it was unnecessary for the relative to attend in this way. We are travelling solo to our villa and will have limited contact with others throughout our holiday. I wouldn't have taken myself or the children to a family dinner poorly as there would be no benefit to anyone?!

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Sirzy · 04/08/2017 09:08

It is one rule for you. It seems you just don't want to see that!

I assume you will be leaving the car while travelling?

What benefit is there if a holiday when all ill?

You can't judge others when you are then doing the same yourself!

joojoobean99 · 04/08/2017 09:15

This is a bit harsh on the OP. They've saved hard for their holiday and are entitled to it, virus or no virus. Yes there's a chance they could spread it to strangers but how many other people do u think go on holiday with illnesses? I got completely flamed for the same situation (a friends DC passed on a vomiting bug to me the day before we went to Disneyland Paris, which I was not told about until we arrived at their house) but we still went. Millions of people still go on holiday when ill so I wouldn't be the mug sat at home missing out and losing all my money just to be considerate to strangers when they probably wouldn't extend the same courtesy to me.

YADNBU OP. Hope u feel better soon. Flowers

Migraleve · 04/08/2017 09:16

yes I agree we are also possibly going to spread this virus

But it's ok for you to spread? Just not anyone else Hmm

the baby has a medical condition that affects the lungs, increasing the chance of a cold or cough turning bacterial fast

Yet you want to take them on holiday!

it isn't one rule for me

YES IT SEEMS TO BE

it was unnecessary for the relative to attend

As it is unnecessary for you to take your sick child away?

i wouldn't have taken myself of the children to a family dinner poorly as there would be no benefit to anyone

Yet you will take your child away when they are poorly Confused presumably the benefit the holiday provides you is an 'acceptable' one

I'm sorry OP but you are BVU here. It's either ok to go out and risk others health or it's not. Added to that your baby is now in anti biotics for a chest infection? Why would you even go?

caffeinestream · 04/08/2017 09:20

If you have insurance, you don't need to lose money - just claim and go another time.

It IS frustrating to miss your holidays but going away when you're unwell is miserable for everyone concerned.

Kimberly343 · 04/08/2017 09:22

the baby has a medical condition that affects the lungs, increasing the chance of a cold or cough turning bacterial fast

Yet you want to take them on holiday!

Given it is a lifelong condition, yes we do want to holiday as a family, this is not without careful considerations, taking a heck of a lot of precautions and with the consultants blessing.

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Migraleve · 04/08/2017 09:24

Oh I'm not saying you shouldn't take a baby with a medical condition that can potentially cause problems on holiday, jus that your baby actually now has anti biotics for a chest infection so is presumably unwell ATM.

ireallydontlikefootball · 04/08/2017 09:26

I leave my 15 year old at home even when she's not poorly. She hates visiting people and I hate making her.

Migraleve · 04/08/2017 09:26

AIBU to not understand why people want to share their viruses?!

This is your question.

No YANBU to not understand. However, you are being MASSIVELY U to try and justify doing the same thing.

AnUtterIdiot · 04/08/2017 09:28

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